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Aug 20
14:56
Hey guys i know this is not abt birth control but your girl needs advice 🥹 So few days ago my bf was showing me his friends ig conversation (the friend is a girl) the girl was just asking about work stuff and after talking abt work this girl proceeds to ask personal questions like hows me and my bf or how is he doing / whats our plans etc . This girl has a boyfriend so at first i have no issues with them talking but their convo has always been the girl asking abt work and then she would ask not work related questions. So back to i was saying my bf was showing me their convo and he accidentally scrolled up and i saw the word ‘ insecure’ so i said oh what made her say insecure can i see what she said? So my bf proceeded to show me the previous convo and the girl sent a screenshot to my bf that she can’t see my bfs ig stories and my bf response was ‘ your blocked’ ‘jk’ and her response was ‘ur gf blocked me’ and my bfs response was ‘oh :( ‘ and her response was ‘there’s nothing wrong with being insecure i guess’ and my bf didn’t say anything. But this was 3 months ago. And when i saw that i was just shooked i did not block her or anything, but in my head why didn’t my bf respond when she said that message. So i became very passive aggressive because i just got hurt that he didn’t say anything . The fact the he admitted thats a talk shit coming from the girl he didn’t bother to say anything . And because i was mad i actually asked for a breakup cause it just feels like he’s scared to protect me . And this happened arnd 3 weeks ago now but it just keeps making me sad still . When i asked him why didn’t you say anything he just said i dont know and he keeps saying sorry that he didnt say anything, in his defence he didn’t want to continue the conversation thats why he didn’t respond. I admit i can be insecure but just coming from another girl it really felt deep and it hurts like why would you say that? And my question is why does she care if she cant see my bfs stories? Its not like they are besties alao they dont work together anymore so i dont know why she keeps asking my bf abt work. After our talk My bf wants to block her but i don’t want it to be awkward between them or i dont want the girl spreading goss abt my bf . But also i don’t want my bf to be talking to her like everything is okay so i don’t know. Can you guys pls tell me if my feeling are valid or im just being too dramatic :( because even tho we talked about it i genuinely still overthink about it. For some reason im overthinking abt what if the girl still asks him questions and he just deletes the messages so i dont see it, so we sont fight. Girlies i really need help :(( PS: sorry for the long post
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Aug 20
18:04
First off, I want you to know that your feelings are completely valid. It’s natural to feel hurt and insecure when you see something that makes you question your relationship. It sounds like you’re in a tough spot, and it’s okay to seek advice and support. From what you’ve shared, it seems like there are a few things to consider: 1. Communication with your bf: It’s important to keep the lines of communication open with your boyfriend. Let him know how his lack of response affected you. It’s understandable that he didn’t want to escalate the situation, but it’s also crucial for him to support you and acknowledge your feelings. 2. Setting boundaries: You both might want to discuss what’s comfortable for each of you regarding friendships with the opposite sex. It’s okay to establish boundaries that make you feel secure in your relationship. 3. Trust and transparency: Trust is key. If you’re feeling anxious about him potentially hiding conversations, it might help to talk about how you can both feel more secure. Transparency can help build that trust. 4. Reflect on the other girl’s intentions: It’s normal to wonder why she’s asking personal questions. If it makes you uncomfortable, it’s worth discussing with your boyfriend how to handle those interactions moving forward. You’re not being dramatic; you’re just navigating a complex situation. Remember, it’s okay to feel what you’re feeling, and it’s great that you’re reaching out for support. Take care!
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