Genuinely At a loss for this guy that I had been seeing. We had each other on social media for years, he pursued me for months, and once we finally started hanging out he stopped putting all the effort in that he did to pursue me. Stopped liking my Insta stories, didn’t ask me to go out and only just hanging out at home, when he used to mention actually going out to dinner etc. he used to reach out and talk to me a lot more frequently. He had the nerve to tell me that I’ve been “MIA” and that I “don’t talk”..? I told him that he hasn’t talked to me and doesn’t seem interested in me, and I unfollowed him on Insta. When he kept asking why I just ignored him because I had JUST told him and so then be unadded me on Snapchat I’ve been waking up in the middle of the night crying because of how upset I am, and I hadn’t been able to look in the mirror bc I feel ugly like I’m not good enough. I am so upset that I got my time wasted and I put my trust into him and I feel deceived.

How long were you seeing him for? Did you ever make it exclusive or official or anything?

It sounds like you place a lot of importance on being pursued. Yes it sucks when people put in less effort than they did initially but did you reach out to him? Suggest going on dates? Make the effort to talk to him? Relationships are a two-way street and it matters just as much that you put in effort to pursue him and that you like him enough to do so as it does that he pursue you. Maybe this wouldn't have ultimately changed things but the fact that he also said you "don't talk" makes me wonder if this was a giant miscommunication where if you had also put in effort to pursue him rather than just assuming he wasn't interested in you anymore, he might have reciprocated...or maybe not, but either way it's really really important not to place all our self-worth on whether or not someone pursues us. Just because a guy might be too lazy to talk to you does not mean you're ugly!!! Think about how little sense it makes to judge our entire worth based on someone else's actions. I think it would be good for you to focus on self-love and building up your confidence right now before dating again.