Tw / mention of cancer, passing I made a post a few months ago how my mom was diagnosed with brain cancer in February. Well, last night we had a hospice nurse assess because of her rapid decline in the last two weeks, and she said she may only have weeks left to live at this point. I’m not really sure what to do, or do with myself, and what to tell my work/manager or how to tell her. My team is aware of my moms condition, I’ve been able to work from my moms home for a while luckily, but I’m not sure if I should work or take a leave, or what. I just don’t know what to do with myself. I’m afraid if I don’t distract myself then I will just crawl under my bed covers. I’m not sure if anyone has any advice or suggestions and have been through this before. Thanks.

Taking a leave of absence could be an option if you feel that you need time to focus on your mom and yourself without the added stress of work. Remember that it's okay to ask for help and take time off to prioritize your mental and emotional health. Seeking support from friends, family, or a counselor can also be beneficial during this time. You are not alone, and there are resources available to help you cope with the challenges you are facing. Take things one step at a time, be gentle with yourself, and know that it's okay to not have all the answers right now. Sending you strength and support during this difficult time.

Taking a leave of absence sounds like it could be a good option for you right now. As said above, it’s okay to take time off to focus on your mom and yourself. My grandpa was in home hospice a few years ago for about a month before he passed, and I’ve always been glad I took time off of work and was there with him. When this was going on reaching out to friends for emotional support helped me a lot because they didn’t have the same emotional feelings surrounding the situation so I could go to them with my big feelings, vent about my anger with how family was handling things, cry and complain, etc without worrying I was hurting someone who was also grieving him.

My mommy passed away from stage 4 breast cancer last July. I had to take a months leave of absence from work. Please please focus on surrounding yourself with your family and friends. Do not let the grieve eat at you for too long. It’s okay to grieve and cry always feel every emotion but remember she is so proud of you and wants you to continue living. I know how hard it is trust me losing my mom still it being a year later I just got in the car yesterday and started breaking down into tears. Unfortunately the death of your mom is something you will never truly be able to get over but right now you have the time to spend with her. Tell her you love her and stay next to her. Make sure you spend the time with her let go of work and other stressors right now she needs you.

i’m so sorry to hear that do what you think is best for you but personally i think you should talk to your manager about the situation and her decline and if possible take a leave of absence so you have more time to spend with your mum and your family at the end of the day you will be working for the rest of your life but you don’t know how much time you have left with your mum so you should make the most of it