I don’t know where else to ask this lol, Wedding advice: Does having a first look ruin the excitement of the ceremony? I don’t want a first look but I feel that’s the norm now so that you have time to take all the pictures you want.

I first wanted to say that I don’t think first looks are as normal as you may think they are! Honestly, if I were in your position I wouldn’t want to do something just because it is “the norm.” At the end of the day it’s YOUR day so you should do what YOU want. It sounds like you don’t want to do a first look so don’t do it! When I get married I’m not going to do a first look either because I agree it takes away from the excitement

Most people take pictures after the ceremony, before the reception.

@maeve_ in this scenario they are talking about a first look which typically occurs before the ceremony!

Yes I know. They mentioned they weren’t sure if they should do it to have more time to take pictures. Typically people set aside time between the ceremony and reception for photos so they could factor that out of their reasoning for having a first look.

for me i think personally a first look does take away from the ceremony, you can take photos after during the cocktail hour! that is what i would do and have seen. but i have had a friend do a first look as well.

It’s your wedding, you can do what you like. Don’t do something cos you feel you have to because everyone else/some people on social media are doing it!

I think it’s just hard for us because our wedding is at 5 and I think the sun sets at 5:40. I don’t want pictures in the dark ya know? I know the sunset doesn’t last too long. I’m just torn lol 🥲

Oooh in that case I would try and get some pictures before the wedding. It doesn’t necessarily have to be a first look though

If you decide to take photos during the cocktail hour just keep in mind it means you won't really be able to participate in that part or mingle with your guests. I personally don't see how a first look would ruin the ceremony as it seems like a nice intimate moment with your partner, but I'm not planning to do follow any of these traditions at my wedding lol so I may not be the best person to ask.