One of my friends of 6 years has been going out with this toxic boy for a bit they broke up and got back together and she told me and a few others all of the awful stuff he did in their relationship so naturally I don’t like him. She got back with him in October and has really started to change she’s always been a defensive person when it comes to confrontation and in the past has been quite nasty to me when I haven’t agreed with her or done something that she wanted me to do. Last year she started distancing herself and myself and another friend didn’t see her as much and since February this year the same has happened she would always cancel plans say she can’t come which is fine everyone is busy but would never reschedule. We invited her to an event in May and she cancelled last minute which was so frustrating naturally I pulled back and another friend so our group chat was radio silent, a month later without even asking why we were silent she asked to meet up I wasn’t free that day so said I couldn’t but I was also annoyed that she didn’t speak to us for a month and didn’t even ask why, I know I also pulled back but I feel I was well within my right as I had asked and Invited her to multiple things and she had never shown up or asked to do something another time. Myself and another friend then met up 2 days later and didn’t say it to her as tbh we didn’t want her there because of how she had been treating us, she then saw we were together and started sending these awful texts saying we were playing a game with her and calling us awful people, but want I was pointing out was that I pulled back because I felt like she didn’t want to be friends with me. She always tries to victimise herself and gets so defensive and nasty over text I have been so nice to her for years and this isn’t the first time she’s had this reaction, I admitted that maybe I should of mentioned it to her earlier but didn’t because of her reactions and the fact she always victimises herself even when she is clearly in the wrong, she is also 24 and I feel like at this age you should be able to recognise that you haven’t put the effort in with your friends and seen them in months and that you haven’t even asked them to do something. She’s really changed and from the texts she sent me last week she’s childish and can’t see how she could be in the wrong. I sent a nice text last week and she only opened it today which again shows that she dosent even want to address it, she wants to meet with me and another friend tomorrow but again said it to us over text in such a defensive way as if we have done something horrible, I’ve realised I’ve outgrown her and she dosent really add value to my life especially when she is with his awful boy who is definitely isolating her, I want to meet up to talk but don’t really want to continue the friendship and also don’t want her attacking us when we meet up. Any advice would be appreciated
