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Apr 5
20:19
TW: Blood, Abuse Hey again everyone. This is another update, I wasn’t sure if I want to write it tbh because I don’t wanna bother you all but a lot of you wanted it so here it is. This one actually needs a trigger warning which I put above so please make sur e to see that first. I am sorry about the photos aswell but I wanted to give you all a good idea of what’s actually been happening and I feel like you all deserve for being so lovely and so supportive, it made me feel so good that people that don’t even know me care so much about my wellbeing! Can’t thank you all enough! Today was a rollercoaster of emotions and to be honest a very rough and horrible day for me. Last time I spoke to you guys was when I waited for my roommate to get back from work and coke police station with me. So she came back, I turned my tracker off like you guys said, thankfully he didn’t get a notification (I know because he would’ve texted me straight away). I explained everything to my roommate and she was in shock, she had no idea as he was also manipulating her into believing it wasn’t him and that everything was ok, she couldn’t be anymore sorry but it wasn’t her fault at all, I would never blame her. We went to the police station together, I wrote a statement, they were so so supportive. When I showed the police woman some of mine and his messages her words were “this man is sick in the head, I am so happy you came here” which made me realise how bad it actually was, they told me it would only get worse. After being at the police station for hours, they finally told me they will drive me to whichever place I feel safe at, I did say I wanna come to my house to grab some stuff and go to my parents so we went to mine (me, the police and my roommate) to only discover that my bedroom window has been smashed a little(pic in comments) (the police said it looks like someone threw something at it like a rock. (Of course it would’ve been him). They said that my roommate is not safe to be there at the moment so I told her to come with me to my parents house which she agreed to. We grabbed our stuff as quick as possible and left with the police. Later on I received a message from him saying what I did hurt him and proceeded to send me a pic of his bloody hand saying he hit a brick wall or something like that (pic in comments again). Bare in mind at this point he had no idea I even went to the police, so he did all of it JUST because I left the house and turned my location off without his permission. Police issued a warrant for his arrest, they went to his house and he wasn’t there (it was past 8 o’clock so he would’ve been back from work by then... they are looking for him but he’s no where to be seen today which they said is strange because he wouldn’t have a idea that I went to the police. They are currently still looking for him. They said they would keep him in custody until court date. They have also told me that I do NOT have to see him in court and I can do it through a video call or something like that so I won’t be psychically I the court room and therefore won’t have to see him. Of course if he just admits to them straight away what he’s done then there will be no court but we all are fully aware he will never admit to it. I am currently at my parents house with my roommate, I am TERRIFIED he will turn up but my mum and dad said all the doors are locked and if there’s a knock on the door , my dad will go and check through the window who it is, if it’s him they won’t open. The police have also said if he turns up to give them a call as soon as possible so they can come and arrest him. I feel much safer knowing this! This would be it for what’s happened today. I just wanted you all to know! I am praying they will find him soon! I will be updating you guys as long as you want! I will also respond to all the lovely messages you been sending me ❤️
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Apr 5
20:19
 
Apr 5
20:22
Omg girl I’m so happy for you. Well done. You did the right thing. Please don’t feel guilty for what he chose to do to himself. I hope you sleep peacefully tonight my lovely x
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Apr 5
20:22
You did the right thing!!! We’re all so glad you were able to leave & that you’re safe!
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Apr 5
20:22
I am so immensely proud of you! Look how strong you are! I am in tears because I am so happy you got out of that situation! So much love sent your way right now! ❤️
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Apr 5
20:23
I’m so glad you’re safe and told the police everything!! i hope you and your family stay safe and he gets caught. Well done for getting out of this situation. I hope you get some rest and heal. We’re all here for you. Sending love 💗
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Apr 5
20:23
🥺 I just wanna let it be known of how happy I am that you did take steps to go to the police, and I’m just so happy that we as an app of anonymous people probably saved a life with all the heartwarming messages and comments we posted to these threads 😩 omg were awesome
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Apr 5
20:24
I’m so glad you are safe!! We’re all so proud of you. 💜 I could cry tears of joy that you finally got out of this situation.
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Apr 5
20:25
I’m so glad you’re safe! Good luck to you xx
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Apr 5
20:25
I’m so happy you did this and you saw what was happening! I hope you find peace now and aren’t scared. Please remember that you are better than what you got and that you deserve more than that. We are all here for you and if you need any other advice or anything just ask ❤️ we’re always here.
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Apr 5
20:25
i haven’t commented since i feel the other girls have better advice than me, but i’ve read through everything and i’m so proud of you. you’re so strong and brave and we’re all so so happy for you. wishing you the best❤️
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Apr 5
20:26
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Apr 5
20:29
i hope the police finds him asap and that he gets what he deserves for being such an awful person.
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Apr 5
20:30
Omg you are so damn strong!!! So happy you got out of there! I only just read your story now, but I was literally sweating and hoping you would pull through! And you did!!! Amazing!!! Hope they get that sh*tbag soon and he rots away in jail for a looooong time! You did AMAZING. You are amazing! Chin up, soon you will be able to get rid of this nightmare! The worst part is over! 💪❤️
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Apr 5
20:33
You are so so courageous and strong. I'm really glad you're safe, you deserve love and safety. Rest, relax, take care of yourself as much as you possibly can. Be kind to yourself because you've been through a lot but always remember you 100% did the right thing by stopping him from hurting you more and likely, once hes caught, stopping him from hurting anyone else.
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Apr 5
20:37
Oh my god I’m so happy for you. It was really really brave of you and it’s such a great thing that you’re finally away from him. I’m so proud of you. You really did the right thing and I’m glad you’re safe. I’m so happy for you. I hope you relax and really treat yourself tonight, you have done the complete right thing. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ Very happy for you!
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Apr 5
20:42
Omg I’m sure this must have been a rollercoaster of emotions. But I’m so proud of you. You took a step in the right direction and you really did the best thing you could do. I’m so glad that you’re safe and I hope they find him and arrest him. 💜💜💜
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Apr 5
20:44
I am in tears for how happy and proud I am that you’ve done what was best for your safety and well-being. You are so strong for standing up for yourself and getting out of a bad situation. I know you will have such great things come your way for getting rid of this monster from your life. We are all here for you and we will continue to support you! 💛
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Apr 5
20:46
So glad that you went to the police and are getting him charged! Such a brave thing to do💜 I'm happy that you have the support of your parents and friend through this and you can always come here too. The next few weeks may be really hard but you’ve made the first steps and things should be looking up for you soon, I recommend still reaching out to a support group/charity for DA as you’ve been through so much. Hope he gets caught soon💜
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Apr 5
20:48
Hi lovely, I have only just come across all your posts about what’s been going with your boyfriend and have sat reading through feeling close to tears for what you’ve been going through! but I couldn’t be more relieved and happy to hear you are now somewhere safe!! I know all the girls on here have said it and have been so supportive, but this community here is so proud of you and your bravery! You’re amazing! I can’t imagine what this has been like for you or how you managed to be this strong, and I wouldn’t wish it on anyone ❤️ I’m so glad you shared your story on this platform and that you have family and friends around you who believe and support you 100% take care of yourself, this man sounds like a monster and needs to get what he deserves! take the time to look after and put yourself first, you have everyone’s support here and we are all rooting for you ❤️
 
Apr 5
20:49
Thank you all so much! It means a lot! And I’m glad I also received your advice otherwise I’d still be in this mess!!!! ❤️❤️❤️ I also just want to add that the police said he will have to pay to get my new window fitted!!! I’m happy karma is coming to get him ☺️❤️❤️❤️
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Apr 5
20:52
Well done!! He deserves everything that’s coming his way💙💙 you were really brave. ! You’re in safe hands now, the police won’t let anything happen to you! 💙💙Really happy you’ve done that
 
Apr 5
20:55
I am so so happy for you. I know it must be an incredible amount of emotions to deal with but you did the right thing. You are so strong and brave. We’re here to support you.
 
Apr 5
20:57
This is so so amazing, you should feel very proud of yourself, you’re so strong!! I’m very happy you are safe💖💖
 
Apr 5
21:16
YOU ARE AMAZING 💙💙💙💙💙💙 I genuinely don’t think I’ve ever felt so proud of a stranger, you’re safe at home with your parents he can’t hurt you now
 
Apr 5
21:21
I'm at work and I want to cry!!! You are so, strong love, and you are going to come out of this so SO happy. I hope he gets what he deserves, you are amazing 💖
 
Apr 5
21:21
I think we were all on the edge of our seats tbh waiting to see if everything went to plan, so this is the best news, we’re all rooting for you and hoping he does get karma! X
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Apr 5
21:27
You are so strong and we’re all so proud of you for seeking help. It won’t be an easy road but you’re safe now which is amazing, as ever, if you need anything we’re for you, even if it’s just for a Friendly chat to get your mind off things ❤️❤️
 
Apr 5
21:30
So glad and proud you went to the police. This was the right and safe thing to do. I hope that they can arrest him soon. So happy that you are ok and now safe; sending you much love xxx
 
Apr 5
21:38
I’m so happy you are safe and have the support of your family and your roommate! You are so brave and strong! You got this beautiful!! 💜
 
Apr 5
21:38
i’m so happy for you! i’ve been thinking of how you’ve been doing all day. my thoughts are with you, it’ll get easier! ❤️❤️
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Apr 5
21:48
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Apr 5
21:50
You did amazingly! That must have been a very exhausting day for you, BUT you can be proud of yourself! Xx
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Apr 5
21:50
I’m so glad you’re safe and. you took the steps you needed to get out of that situation. You should be SO proud of yourself. I truly believe things will only get better for you from now on. You are so incredibly strong!! Please lean on those around you for support when you need it, and be your own best friend for while- you’ve gotta have your own back! Again, we’re all with you ❤️
 
Apr 5
22:11
I’m SO happy you are safe ❤️❤️ you did the right thing, take it easy for a while and keep us up to date on how you’re doing
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Apr 5
22:38
I’ve been so anxious all day/ night thinking about you. I’m so happy and proud of you. I know we don’t know each other and it sounds silly, but I care and will continue to care. You are so strong and I’m so happy for you! Just a side note too, might also help to see a therapist through all of this too. You got this ❤️
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Apr 5
22:42
I‘ve been away from my phone for a week now and have just seen all of your posts. I can’t believe what’s happened and I’m so so so glad you’re safe!! Extremely proud you took the necessary steps and I wish you all the best from here on out ❤️. To everyone else on this app, you guys are all so f***ing amazing. You all identified there was something really shady going on with the injuries and you guided her to safety. I’ve always been so appreciative of everyone on this app but seeing all of this today blew my mind at the power we all hold. Once again, very very proud and happy you’re safe ❤️
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Apr 5
22:48
I’m so glad you’re safe, what you did was so brave and inspiring! I would love to hear updates 💜
 
Apr 5
23:40
Really worried there’s more then just a smashed window since I haven’t been there
 
Apr 5
23:41
The important thing is you’re not there, and everything can be replaced you’re safe @malixx_ ❤️
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Apr 5
23:41
Also I know it sounds ridiculous but somehow when I saw his hand I started to feel bad. Is this normal?
 
Apr 5
23:42
@Malixx_ do NOT feel bad! He did it all to himself. You have no reason to feel bad after the way he’s treated you.
 
Apr 5
23:45
He’s got a bad hand. You have a broken nose, black eye and a bruised stomach.. if it’s hurting him a lot then at least now he get a slight idea of what you felt like
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Apr 5
23:47
@Malixx_ i understand why you would feel bad, but don’t feel any guilt for him. he’s the one who smashed a window. you’ve been through much more pain than him
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Apr 5
23:53
@Malixx_ he specifically sent you that to make you feel bad. Don't fall for it!!
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Apr 5
23:54
@malixx_ he’s using that as a way manipulate you into feeling bad and pity him! He did it to himself. It’s not your fault
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Apr 6
00:35
It's scary to think what he would've been capable of doing had you been home and you stood up for yourself in front of him... Do not feel bad. He is vile and now you are safe from his hands.
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Apr 6
00:55
Beyond proud of you! We were so worried about you and are very glad to know that you’ve taken our advice and got away from a horrible situation. We’re always here for you 💕
 
Apr 6
01:03
I definitely agree with @aurielle — at this stage I honestly feel like he would hurt his self “intentionally” just to manipulate you into making you feel bad so you would come back. Remember last night when he was elbowing you when he clearly knew you were in pain. Don’t fall for his tricks. And to answer your question; yes, it is normal for an abused Person to start empathizing with their abuser it’s called: “stockholm syndrome” - it’s where the abused person identifies with their abuser
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Apr 6
01:04
So you’re okay. It’s part of the process of breaking away from situations like this. Just try and find something that makes you feel safe.
 
Apr 6
01:33
I’m so happy you got out of this abusive and controlling relationship. I’m so glad you had the courage to go to the police and ask for help. I don’t know if you ever experienced sexual abuse with him but please get theapy if you can. Maybe the police or courts can help you find someone that can help you recover from the hold her had on you. It’s completely normal for you to feel bad for him but don’t do it he didn’t deserve it at all. ❤️
 
Apr 6
01:51
He is literal trash. You did so good!!! I am thinking of you and uplifting you!
 
Apr 6
02:35
So happy you’re safe! I’ve been reading through all your posts over the last few days and I’m so happy you got out of there💗
 
Apr 6
02:37
@malixx_ any updates?
 
Apr 6
03:07
This is absolutely incredible news!! We’re all here for you every step of the way. You are so so strong for doing this ❤️❤️
 
Apr 6
03:18
This made my day girl 🧡☺️☺️ I’m extremely proud of you 💕 you’re so strong and I’m so happy you’re gonna be safe now ♥️♥️
 
Apr 6
04:36
Let us know with any updates when you’re ready and if you feel comfortable❤️ you’re so strong for doing what you did
 
Apr 6
07:34
Guilt is a really common feeling for victims of abuse, abusers manipulate you so you feel sorry for them and end up staying or dropping charges. Don’t fall for it, it’s just a tactic...if he wasn’t trying to scare and hurt you then this wouldn’t have happened to his hand it’s 100% his fault, he’s a grown adult you’re not responsible for his anger outbursts!! Stick with your guns and carry on doing what you’re doing, don’t answer any texts and stay safe💜
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Apr 6
08:54
He trying to guilt trip you, don’t fall for it! People who care about you will not hurt you! Thinking of you, stay strong ❤️
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Apr 6
09:53
I know you guys are still expecting updates so here’s another little one; The police have rang me this morning to ask if I know of any places he could be at, I gave them some addresses of his friends house, I didn’t want to do that but I felt like it’s the right thing. Unfortunately they’ve been at his house twice and he isn’t there! They also drove past my house and told me that it’s only my window that’s smashed and everything else looks fine from outside which is great! I’m just stressing so much about where he is to the point that I can’t even go outside because I’m worried he will see me somewhere. I just wanted to add that I can’t thank you all enough for all those kind words! They really do mean a lot and cheer me up more then you can think! You’re all great! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
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Apr 6
09:54
Also, the police have also said they are worried about everyone else he comes in contact with .. as they said he is “a dangerous person” and “could hurt anybody” if he found out I went to the police somehow
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Apr 6
10:19
stay safe!! i hope they find him soon x
 
Apr 6
12:04
You definitely did the right thing!! Hoping they find him today! x
 
Apr 6
12:10
You really did the right thing, you’re so strong. Don’t let him make you feel bad. I’m so happy for you
 
Apr 6
15:33
I would also suggest maybe getting a restraining order against him.
 
Apr 7
01:34
Thank you for being you♥️ I’m tearing up reading through all of this because of how happy and proud I am!!!! This has been a crazy journey for you. Please keep us updated for days and weeks to come
 

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