Why is my boyfriend so obsessed with being home all the time with his family even when I have my own place? He also feels the need to be around his mom.

Because having a good relationship with your family is a good thing…?

It’s more than a good relationship. There is no boundaries. I get@Kitarah treated the same way as he treats his mother.

Does he treat his mother badly or something? I’m confused why him spending time with his family is a problem for you

Excessive @Kitarah

I love my family obvs but being independent is very important to me, so a partner being very dependent on their family and having little/no boundaries with them to the point it’s interfering with them having normal relationships with other people (romantic or platonic) is a dealbreaker for me.

^ I wouldn’t even say it’s about dependency. I know a lot of people that are very family oriented that are still independent and have normal relationships. Does he live at home or does he have his own place?

@bluerose9 yes I am starting to feel like this he constantly wants to sleep at his parents house and he doesn’t even have his own bed there anymore but I have my own house and he still continues to choose to pick to sleep at his moms and will make excuses to sleep there.

@pizzalady then where does he sleep if he doesn’t have his own bed..? Does he make an effort to spend time with you in general? Have you talked to him about this situation before and what has he said?

He sleeps on the couch in the living room. I have talked to him about it I said to him that he will probably sleep at his moms when he’s 40 and he responded like this “probably 😂😂😂😂”@bluerose9

@pizzalady why though?

I have no idea he is very attached to his mom and it’s starting to ruin our relationship. Like I have my own house where me and him can have our own space yet he still chooses to sleep and be at his moms all the time. @bluerose9

@pizzalady is he making effort to see you and spend time with you in general though?

I mean not just us, hell invite me over to his parents and let me sleep there if I choose.

@pizzalady I mean if you’ve made it clear you want to spend more quality time together, just the two of you, and you don’t see him changing his ways and actually doing that then I’d say maybe you need to reconsider staying in this relationship. Relationships need a bit of compromise, it’s not fair that you have do what he wants all the time and that your wants aren’t being considered. I don’t see how this relationship is going to work out long term if he’s unable to meet you halfway. Is there something he doesn’t like about your home or ?

I don’t know nothing that he’s expressed @bluerose9

@pizzalady I think you need to talk to him more about this and if this is a big issue for you, you need to make that clear for him.

I’m confused, does he still live with his family or does he have an appartement?

^ yeah I’m also confused as to where he actually lives