Any of y’all ever met someone and knew right away that was your person. But bc of the circumstances of each other life you both couldn’t give each other a fair chance?? Well… a man I met back in 2019 was just a causal thing. And I’ve always looked back and thought what could of been… well I blocked him on everything bc I found out he was talking to another girl (which he married) Fast forward we reconnected like two days ago and I found out he’s married now (2 years now) and im in a very serious relationship and are In talks about engagement. Why do I feel like I wish things could of been different

Sure I've wondered that about guys I liked and had a casual thing with when I wasn't in a place for a serious relationship. But then I remember that it's easy to fantasize about what *could* have been, but actually being in a relationship and building a future with someone is a totally different thing. Because I was just casual with that person, I didn't *actually* know them that well on a deeper level. And that makes it very easy to romanticize them and think they're perfect, since you don't know all their flaws and their whole selves, which you wouldn't be able to know until you actually got into a relationship.

Ooooof. My friend would always tell me that. I romanticized the 4 months I had with them. And I didn’t even think of that. Like him reaching out as a married man and admitting he had another fling after me before his wedding was confirmation this man will always look for validation on another women else where. SMH. I will stop talking to him.

^ I think it’s too easy to get caught up in your own imagination, realistically the situation would not be as perfect and exciting and romantic as you have fantasied. I felt the same about a guy I was seeing a few years ago, I think I focused on it too much for a while and it held me back. One door closes and another opens. In life the path we take changes on a daily basis. Small decisions and changes can totally change the direction we go in life. You have to make peace with that, focus on your life now and look forward to your (realistic) future.

I think @bluerose9 @aurielle said it best it’s so easy to romanticize someone when you don’t know them on a deeper level