@Wanderlustxo I would not date someone who doesn’t ever seem to put me or my feelings first. The moment I start realizing that im a second-thought decision I am absolutely out.
My partner is my #1 person and if you’re going to ride along for the rest of each others lives, you better be able to depend on each other through pretty much everything. That ex of his should in no way be making you feel insecure and it’s because he is not going about it in a way to make YOUR feelings come first. Ugh, no offence but he sucks.
I remember when I first started dating my partner he was uncomfortable with my ex and i being friends because his ex would be shady with her ex boyfriend so he had a bit of trauma. I said absolutely no problem, I told my ex “hey im dating someone new so we can’t talk anymore” and it was just never something I had to consider. All my friends are male, I sleep over at their house without my bf there, or they’ll sleep over at mine so it’s not about control but boundaries - there’s certain things that trigger him that I just do respect. But if you got a boundary with exes then your partner is supposed to honour your feelings - period.