Advice appreciated ❤️ My future SIL is having a destination wedding in Italy. However it is during the NFL season and my fiance works in sports broadcast. He covers several NFL teams and is extremely busy during the season, working extremely long days and weekends. The wedding is in Italy and we are in the US so it's going to be challenging to get there during the season. He is worried his time may not even be approved by work since that time of year is so important. What would you do in this situation? I told him to see if time off gets approved first and we have to go from there. Should we just go there the bare minimum amount of days (3-4days) so he doesn't have to be away from work long, but obviously the long flying days will be very rough doing that? I was thinking maybe I need to encourage him to atleast extend it so we can give ourselves a buffer day when we land because the jet lag will be so bad. I hate to know he will be missing such an important part to his work, but flying to Italy for just a weekend feels so crazy to try to accomplish. I have never been there and I've always dreamed of going so another part of me is sad that it is this time of year because I feel like I can't actually explore it. I thought about extending the trip just myself so my partner could go back to work but that feels very selfish to do so I just feel like this situation is a lot of stress all around

Honestly looking at the calendar I have no idea with the flights and events how we would go there for the wedding weekend and not have to take atleast 4 or 5 days off even minimum to do it all

I personally do not enjoy rushed trips at all so I would not travel across the atlantic unless I could be there for a minimum of a week. For me personally the long flights aren't worth it otherwise but I also hate air travel so it's a me thing. I would extend my trip and enjoy it even if my partner couldn't and I think he'd understand. In terms of his work and travel that's between him and his sister to figure out if he can make it and what he's willing to compromise on.

@aurielle Thank you! That makes me feel better because I wasn't sure if extending it without my partner would be the right thing to do, but I feel like if I'm already there I should do the exploring I've always wanted to. Just sucks he can't do so as well. Hopefully he can figure it out with work and find some kind of compromise, but you're right that's his situation to figure out & then have that discussion with his sister of what he can make it to