So my bf (24) and I (25) have been together for almost two years, we live together and everything. I was his first kiss and everything so he doesn’t have any experience at all. Well, the man never wants to go down on me, he tries to finger me and even with my help it’s just not arousing always and just too hard?? and he doesn’t initiate four play very well. Tonight I brought it up to him cuz I try to explain things he can do and he tries but when I asked him why he never goes down on me he says it’s because every time he has, the next day he ends up sick. I feel so sad now and I honestly can’t get over it. I know I’m not “making him sick”. I never made my exes sick?? I’m really hurt. Now he says he will do it but I’m not at all in the mood now especially since it feels like if he does do it it’s just cuz I said something. I love it when my partner WANTS to do it and get like excited about it. I’m stupidly upset about this.
I want to preface this by saying my bf is a very great guy - I love him and he said he didn’t want to say but I asked him to just tell me why. He can clearly tell how upset I am as I’ve had to make some space between the two of us for tonight.