*tw(maybe?)* so i've been hooking up with this guy for the last couple months, we're in the same group of friends so i know him well. The first time we had sex I was so drunk I could barely remember it, but i've continued hooking up with him because he's a nice guy and my pill makes me super horny. Anyways on Saturday we were both at a party and I was drunk again (I don't remember having that much to drink) and when I asked him the next day he told me we had sex. I'm freaking out because I literally don't remember having sex with him at all, everything else that happened that night i've been able to remember when people have told me but no matter how hard I try I can't remember having sex. I've told my friends and they don't think it's a big deal and neither does he and I feel like I'm going crazy.

It is a big deal because you can’t give consent when you’re drunk (unless it was agreed beforehand)

Tbh it’s concerning that this guy still had sex with you if you were that drunk not to remember any of it… he should have seen how drunk you were and waited for you to consent properly

^ does anyone remember you going off with him? And how did you get so drunk you don’t remember if you didn’t have much to drink?

@stinaaa My friends remember, they always take photos of us together which i find really annoying. The weird thing is i didn't feel very drunk most of the night, I can normally tell when I've reached my limit and I stop myself but maybe the drinks were stronger than I thought

You can’t consent when you’re that drunk. It’s worrying he and your friends don’t seem to care about it… Is he also drunk? Does he make you drink more, did he put anything in your drink? I personally would stay away from him as I believe he’s taking advantage of you because his memory doesn’t seem to be affected like yours. Might want to reconsider the friend group too, I just get bad vibes from the situation. I hope I’m not making you feel uncomfortable by sharing my thoughts

Yeah if you’re drunk enough to the point you can’t remember it at all then you cannot consent, especially if he wasn’t that drunk too x

Everything they are saying ^ and also if I may offer my advice * perhaps watch your drinks…and don’t set them down unattended. I don’t know; it feels weird to me that you’re saying you were that far gone and don’t remember anything, but you remember most other parts of the night…I feel like you would have some recollection of having sex.

@SugarWitch_ yeah it makes me think she possibly got drugged..

^ agreed with the comments above this situation sounds suspicious, I would recommend distancing yourself from him and drinking less/being more cautious about getting drunk/being very careful about watching your drinks with this group of people. To be clear I’m absolutely not saying it’s your fault in any way, it’s definitely not, but these people clearly do not have your back and your safety is not their priority so please be careful from now on x