**TRIGGER WARNING** I think I just went through something bad, but I’m unsure what to do. I hung out with my ex (we remained friends) and had a great time getting food and enjoying an arts and craft night that he put together. It starts to get late and get a text message from a guy that I was talking to ( we’re just friends now) and he asks me if I could come over to talk and hangout since he wanted to see me. I tell him that it’s really late and I had other plans during the weekend. He told me that he wouldn’t be able to see me the other days of this weekend, so I tell him that I would drop by to see him and talk. I get to his place and things start to get uncomfortable, awkward, and intimidate while I was there. I felt an immense sense of guilt, remorse, and shame afterward. He didn’t want me there to talk… I don’t know how to feel about the situation. I feel guilty for what happened because I went over there after hanging out with my ex. I feel remorseful about the fact that I didn’t want that happen, but I went along with it. I don’t know what to do.

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I’m so sorry this happened to you. It’s not your fault and you didn’t do anything wrong. Please block this person and don’t see them again! When you feel ready talk to someone close to you who you can trust, don’t hold it in. If therapy is an option I would also suggest doing that ❤️ In regard to feeling guilt because you also spent time with your ex that day, if you’re not exclusively dating anyone or have any kind of commitment to anyone then you’re doing absolutely nothing wrong. Be kind to yourself ❤️

I’m so sorry this happened to you. You did nothing wrong by hanging out with a friend prior to meeting up, he might be your ex but you’ve remained friends. That’s all there is to it now: you’re friends. There is no need to feel guilt, but I think everyone would understand where you’re coming from. Just wanted to let you know it’s okay. Just like the reply above I suggest against seeing that second guy again. Remove him from your circle. He manipulated you into visiting when you didn’t want to, and then the situation only got worse after. Anyone that respects you and your time would’ve just rescheduled for another time. Please talk to someone you trust, because you are not alone and there are people who can offer their support. If you ever don’t feel up to anything, stick to what you want and stay within your comfort. You are the most important person in your life. Be gentle. It’s easier said than done but you need to put yourself first.