I’ve had a low sex drive recently, and my boyfriend talked to me about it yesterday. He says he feels rejected and that I’m not attracted to him anymore, and was just kind of seeking answers as to why the sudden change in sex drive and what he could do to help. I’m not sure what I can do to help him through these feelings… thoughts?

What did you say when he told you that?

@bluerose9 I started crying and said I’m sorry and I am attracted to him, don’t mean to make him feel like that. I hate that I’m making him feel that way but I didn’t know what to say to help

@kw11 then maybe the next time you talk, try and stay calm and reassure him again. Is there any explanation for it do you think? Changes in sleep or diet, stress, mental health, medications, lack of self confidence etc are some common reasons for libido changes. Do any of them apply to you?

Sometimes the pill can decrease libido

@bluerose9 I’ve been more stressed in my job, lacking confidence, and change in a dose of medication

I had the same problem with my partner we had a talk and I reassured him that it was nothing to do with attraction and that I loved him but that I just didn’t feel the need to as much at that moment your partner should accept any decision you make sex shouldn’t be the main focus of a relationship if anything I think the break from sex made my sex drive better after as I had not did it in so long but just remember it’s normal especially with the pill and to not be ashamed and reassure your partner but remember it’s not your fault

@kw11 totally normal! Hopefully that will help reassure him too