Me and my ex broke up 2 weeks ago due to him having a** parents that got involved in everything and eventually forced us to stop seeing each other (we are in our 20s fully capable of making our own life decisions). Since then, he’s been saying “he misses me, why don’t I text as much as I used to?” Im like we aren’t together so I didn’t know it mattered how much I text?? He says he wants to still talk to me. He still shows up at my work sometimes because he wants to see me. Today he texted me saying “if theres someone else or if you don’t ever see a future again Id other move on” I told him “ I told you I have trust issues I need to work on before I get in any relationship I do want to be with you but ur parents just cause issues between us and you got back into ur bad habits”. Him assuming I am already talking to someone was really weird to me. Before we broke up I did tell him that we could potentially have a future together if he gets his stuff together (he would drink excessively and it would cause bad arguments), he needs to get his life together, get a better job, work on himself. My dad said I should just not take him back in the future because he’s proven many times that he wants his alcohol and not me. Usually after a break up Im not used to an ex still wanting to see me or be concerned about if Im talking to someone else… is this a hidden red flag?

I’m glad you’re out of that relationship, you put the blame on his parents but he himself was a bad partner. You’ve made multiple posts in the past that showcased him being toxic. Your dad is right. It’s time to block and move on, don’t wait and sit around hoping he will “fix” himself. You’re not compatible, end of story.

His parents interfering is a blessing in disguise. They probs know what he’s like and are embarrassed he treats other people so badly. You will look back at this in time and be grateful for them interfering and ending the relationship. You have made multiple!!!! posts describing how much of an idiot this man is, how unhappy you were and how badly he treats you. Your dad is 100% right and you should listen to him. Block your ex and move on with your life. He’s not going to change. You were not happy. You can want him to change all you want but he’s not going to change. Besides everything else it would be embarrassing to have a boyfriend who as a grown adult lets his parents run his life. Your relationship was toxic and unhealthy and you deserve a lot better. Go back and read your old posts and remind yourself why this guy does not deserve to be in your life.

@bluerose9 too add to this: imagine as if your best friend contacts you about their partner in your exact situation. Would you tell them to stay? No you would NOT!

Agree with everything that's been said and it's time to set some hard boundaries with him post-breakup. You're right, you're not together anymore but he's acting like you still are so time to tell him no more coming to your work and no more texting. Doing these things will just make it harder for both of you to heal.

^^ yes to what everyone is saying. It’s been long over due. Your posts have not been happy posts. You deserve better. A MAN and not a boy! Take some time for yourself to heal and grow. You deserve it. It sounds like he still wants the benefits of a gf without the title of a gf. I agree with @aurielle set boundaries. You can’t act like everything if fine and yall are friends/together cause you’re not. You literally just broke up. You need space away to process everything and grieve. Not to be texting your ex 🙄😒 it’s hard. I know it’s so hard. But you both will be okay. And in the future if you wanna revisit each other you can. But give yourself a some time!! And he was the biggest red flag the whole time boo, you do not need us to tell you he’s a red flag AFTER the break up! Stay awayyyy 🙅🏽‍♀️🙅🏽‍♀️🙅🏽‍♀️