Need some advice. I’ve started dating again recently. And I started chatting with this guy who I thought looked different than he does. I enjoyed chatting with him, but I do not find him attractive. In the pics that I had seen of himself prior he looked a lot different than he does now. But now that he sent pics of himself, I don’t know how to tell him that I’m not interested anymore. He honestly looks like one of my brothers. Should I be straight up? He’s also overwhelmed me with the amount of messages he’s sent. Not sure how to word that I’m not longer interested since he sent pics today and will know it’s based on his appearance.

It’s best you tell him the truth if you aren’t interested anymore.

You should be honest, but if you don’t want to *crush* him you don’t have to tell him it’s because of his appearance. You can just tell him that your romantic feelings aren’t developing and no longer interested.

Have you seen him in real life?

Thanks for the advice. I’ll send him a message. And no @aurielle I haven’t, we just started chatting recently (like 5 days ago) and haven’t made plans to meet up. And since last night he’s spammed with me multiple messages. It’s a bit overwhelming.

I generally wouldn't judge people on looks too hard until I've seen them IRL because pictures don't really give a good view, but the overwhelming messages definitely seems like a good enough reason to end things. Just tell him you're not really feeling a connection and you don't want to waste his time.

U shouldn’t of started dating someone without video calling or seeing proper pictures

@Draculaurasb they're not dating they literally just started talking 5 days ago

@Draculaurasb they’re just chatting, she just entered the dating scene again, that’s very different.

@Yi_eune @Yi_eune the post says dating? I’m confused

@aurielle she started it off with dating I’m confused sorry

Dating usually means going on dates and getting to know people. Some people use the word dating interchangeably with being in a committed relationship. The context matters and in this context, OP is referring to getting to know people.

@DRaculaurasb Sorry I meant dating as in seeing people again. Like putting myself out there and just chatting. I’m talking to a few men. I don’t really plan on being exclusive (if that’s what you meant) until I’ve really gotten to know someone. And just to update everyone, he took my message well. I was definitely overthinking, I just didn’t want to hurt his feelings. Thanks guys!

@Bananass Ty for explaining sorry again