My ex boyfriend broke up with me 1.5 months ago. He said he’s very depressed and can’t handle a relationship right now. He’s also lied to me about little white lies. Today I saw him on a dating app. So much for being so depressed. I’m so tempted on sending this: “So much for being “depressed” and “can’t handle a relationship right now” with your new hinge profile. I’ve figured it out, you just go in circles to find something new and sparkly just to mask your internal issues and it’s never going to end unless you work on yourself. While doing this, you really hurt people. Oh and you know you can see what day you sent a package from the tracking number, so thank you for lying to me even after we broke up. (Including your probably non-expired passport lol) And to think I tried so hard to cheer you up for months, while this weighed so so heavily on me. You’re a dang good liar I can tell you that. Tell me the secret to feeling so much better so quickly. “ I feel like I didn’t get any of my points across when he broke up with me over the phone. I feel like it’s not closed for me and it’s not fair I didn’t get to say things I feel.

Don’t send it he won’t care and you’ll just look sad and he’ll probs get a laugh lift your head up and move on

Don’t. Literally just don’t send a message when you’re emotional, upset and angry. Write that out on a piece of paper and get your feelings out that way for now. If in a week or two you still feel the same way, and still want to reach out and explain your feelings about the situation to try and get some more closure, write a message when you’re calmer and more collected, and can write a more mature message lol. The harsh truth is you’re broken up now and what he does is none of your business, he’s not wrong for having a dating profile and if he’s got issues he needs to work on, that’s on him. I’m really sorry they affected you so negatively and I’m really sorry you’re so hurt by him and his actions, I’ve been there and it really fricking sucks. Right now sending a message like that when you’re angry and emotional and bitter isn’t helpful or productive in any way. Unfortunately, in my experience, closure often comes from within you and yep it’s actually really not fair.

Don’t say anything! Move on!

He could be using the app for hookups. It doesn't necessarily mean he's ready for a relationship.

I have mixed feelings. I understand the side of not sending a message and moving on, but I’ve found that I move on faster when there’s no stone left unturned. Otherwise these thoughts go on and on for months or longer for me. I really don’t like feeling like I didn’t stand up for myself and that I didn’t voice my feelings when I was done wrong. So do what you feel is best for yourself honestly. Only thing I’ll add is that if you do send him something, write it with as little emotion as possible, make it very direct with what was done wrong and make sure your facts are right!

Don’t send a message when you’re this hurt and angry. Wait until you’ve calmed down and if in a couple weeks you still want to send a message, send one. But remember, closure doesn’t come from others, you’re the only one who can truly give yourself closure.