ADVICE PLEASE!!! So my friend just asked me to be her maid of honor (yay!!) and I want to ask her to be a bridesmaid at my wedding in may. The issue is my mom wants me to replace a bridesmaid with her because one (my fiancé’s sister) just found out she’s like 12 weeks pregnant, so she’d be like 35 weeks by then and probably NOT super comfortable that day since she’s be about ready to give birth basically. Sooo....how to I ask her how she feels about it? This is what I was thinking: “Hey, I wanted to check in with you and ask how you feel at this moment regards to being a bridesmaid? I don’t want you feeling uncomfortable or overworked that day with your pregnancy and it’s going to be a lot of standing and in the heat for pictures.”

Try to ask her if you think she will be able to do it instead of sounding like u don’t want her to be by saying overworked because of ur pregnancy AND we will be standing in the heat. Just try to say that there will be a lot of standing and moving around and I was wondering if you think you will still be able to do all this because of your pregnancy. Make it more of her decision and not u sounding like u don’t want her to be a bridesmaid. If that makes sense

^ i like that. Maybe be like ‘hey! So I just realized that since your 12 weeks prego now you’ll be 35 on my wedding day! Just wanting to make sure you’ll still be up for it. Wouldn’t want you to feel uncomfortable or anything. Let me know what you think. Congrats by the way so happy... x’ make it seems like you want her to be 100% with it. If not what’s the deal of adding one more bridesmaid?

Yes!! Thank you so much! I’m the worst at phrasing things lol I do want her to be a bridesmaid, and I don’t think my mom has an issue with me adding one, she’s more worried about if that bridesmaid will be comfortable or not, and since I started working with pregnant teens, I totally understand more now! My students that are about ready to pop are always uncomfortable, struggle walking, everything hurts, etc. Thank you!

@Finally_free oh okay. Well then also mention that! Idk if she’s ever had a kid but if she hasn’t she probably won’t know what to expect at 35 weeks lol. And since you have experience working with pregnant girls definitely mention what they’ve experienced around that time. Or you can even say ‘if at any time you change your mind when the time comes closer just let me know! I want you to enjoy the wedding with everyone else..’

@stinaaa she has 2 :) and I like that last sentence! Thank you!!

You’re welcome! Congrats by the way congratulations 🎊