I just kinda want some opinions… Me and my bf have been together for over 4 years. I have been living over my bfs house with his parents, my bf went into a hospital on December 23rd. Ever since then his parents have been extremely weird to me, they kicked me out on Christmas Eve while my job is also in that area. The day that I left I was crying to his mom that I miss him and I wish I could call him, asking about visiting hours and still after all that his parents didn’t bother giving me any updates on him or if he can have visitors and its been basically a week. I have been so upset ever since this all happened and it was very difficult to enjoy Christmas and it’s just getting worse because of how they are treating me and I really don’t get why.

If they’ve never behaved in this way to you before, while it’s wrong how they’re treating you it could be put to the stress of their son being in hospital — I don’t know how serious it is but maybe they feel very scared and protective and are upset they’re not getting family time with him over Christmas. While it’s unkind of them to not update you on visiting and to kick you out, people do act erratically when they’re worried about a loved one, so I would wait until things settle down a bit before you question them about it. You may be able to ask the hospital directly about his visiting hours but that differs between hospitals and countries so I’m not sure. I’m sorry this happened to you and I hope ur bf is okay x

@bElle_123 he isn’t in the hospital for something serious. I do understand the being sad about Christmas, but if it was the other way around my parents would NEVER treat him like how they are towards me.

@GhostFaceLov ohhh i see, if it’s not serious that’s very different and is unkind, especially if you have been living with them for many years. i would definitely talk to your boyfriend about this when you’re able, and potentially you can address the problem together. his parents better have a good explanation because kicking someone out of where they live is not a proportionate reaction at all to this situation!

This is very upsetting for you. Especially if you can't think of anything you did to warrant this behavior from the parents. You said it's nothing serious for your boyfriend. Do you think maybe his parents blame you for whatever is going on with him and why he is in the hospital? I doubt anything is your fault and it could be an illness that has nothing to do with you. Just maybe they are thinking you did something wrong and taking it out on you. Either way, it isn't right and they shouldn't be treating you that way. You could call the hospital and ask for visitation hours and see which room number he is in. You could go visit him. Does he have his cell phone with him? You could text and ask him. Maybe see when the parents are going and go at a time they won't be there, so you can talk to him privately. Sounds like you have been staying there for a long time and they shouldn't have kicked you out. Especially during the holiday. Hope you have somewhere safe to stay till you can figure things out. Have you been able to talk to your boyfriend at all while he has been in the hospital?

It says a lot about who they are if they just kick you out for no reason. Probably a good idea to move into your own place or back to your parents’ house if possible. Or if for some reason you’re going to continue to live there make sure your future stay as short as possible. Staying with in-laws for a long amount of time has shown to cause issues down the line.