Do you want children? If yes, why? If no, why not?
If your partner decided a few years into your relationship that they all of a sudden wanted kids but you don’t, what would you do? Or vice versa? Would you stay with them?
Would love to hear answers!
Feb 10 19:11
I would want kids in the future but only if I am stable enough, it’s such a big responsibility I don’t wanna start on it until I am fully ready. The main reasons I would like children is because I adore kids, and I am also quite motherly. I also think I would be a good mother.
If my partner and I weren’t on the same page when it comes to kids it would be a deal breaker for me.
Feb 10 19:32
I think it’s hard to give a reason or why you do or don’t want kids, for some people they just know. Like for me I know that I really want to be a mom, I like caring for people and I love kids. Agree with the comment above, if I was with someone that didn’t want kids, I wouldn’t stay with them.
Feb 10 19:37
I definitely want kids. I’m a very maternal person, love children, and want to build a family with my partner.
In my opinion, if two people are on opposing sides in a relationship where one person really wants kids and the other doesn’t, it usually won’t work out. Having children isn’t like a living disagreement that you can compromise on, you either have them or don’t. If my partner came to me and said he never wants to have children, I would have to end the relationship because it has been one of my lifelong dreams.
Feb 10 20:49
I lean towards not wanting kids usually. They’re a really big commitment and once you have a kid your life is about them and I want my life to be about me. I don’t have the patience or the desire to raise another human being. I think I would only consider having children if I could guarantee that they would grow up in a two parent household with emotionally mature and adjusted parents.
Feb 10 22:57
I'm undecided about whether I want kids but at the moment I don't. I've just never felt that strong innate desire for children that some people have, and I really enjoy prioritizing myself and my needs which I know is hard to do when you have kids because you need to prioritize them. I also know that having kids in my country/culture is extremely difficult because of a lack of support systems like parental leave and affordable childcare.
My partner and I have discussed this because he leans toward wanting kids but I'm unsure. If he suddenly decided that having kids is a must we wouldn't be able to stay in the relationship. But he says he's okay with it either way. I definitely wouldn't want to have kids just because my partner wants them.
Feb 11 01:11
I don’t want children. When they are born, your life is no longer about you. Every decision of your life must now be for the benefit of your children. It is a lot of time, money, sacrifice, and dedication to have children. I value my ability to travel last minute, my ability to sleep in, to have a quiet space, and to do what I want, when I want.
Feb 11 17:24
i don’t want children :( i love babies and kiddos so much. but when they become self aware, they’re going to be so disappointed in their mama. my mental health isn’t good and i fear i’m just going to let them down. if my boyfriend wants children along the lines, i’d be crushed because we spoke about this a lot. but i’d want him to seek out someone else to fulfil his wish for children. also; i’m selfish. i want my life to be about me and i want to have free will to do whatever i want without having to worry about children who need my care. so that’s also a whole other factor >_<