Question - can anything good come from a “friends with benefits” situation? I’ve always been more of a relationship person but have recently been back in touch with an old friend and have seen him a few times since the start of this month...any advice is appreciated x

You both may start to catch feelings which could lead to a relationship... x

Yes I’ve had 4 successful fwb situations, one of them I’m still very close friends with now. You have to be someone who can easily separate sex and romance/feelings and doesn’t get attached easily. It worked well for me as it meant I could still have sex, cuddles, intimacy without the commitments x

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He said he’s not “ready” for anything yet as he’s been split up for just over a year and that’s fine because I’m quite happy right now being on my own and not necessarily looking for anything at this moment in time. I do like him and we get on well.... guess only time can tell x

If you like him how is it a friends with benefits situation?

i think being fwb can lead to both of you eventually catching feelings for each other especially if you feel emotionally attached to him now but if he doesn’t want a relationship it could cause you to get hurt if your looking for a relationship to come out of it and it’s not what he wants then there could be issues but if your happy continuing being fwb w him then i say go for it and maybe in the future he’ll consider being in a relationship with you? only time will tell i guess xx

Yes, I've had a lot of fun and explored and learned about my sexuality from fwb situations. It allows you to have some physical intimacy and meet those sexual needs without commitment. If you like him it sounds like maybe what you're going for is more like casual dating? Friends with benefits for me is primarily about sex, and with someone you can be friendly with/hang out with casually. Whatever you decide, just make sure the expectations are clear and you are on the same page about what you want. And do NOT go into a fwb situation hoping for it to turn into a relationship.

Yeah we got into this as what I thought would be a “one time thing” but have since seen him and had sex and then basically left so I’m not around for the whole “cuddle and whatever else” tbh, I’m ideally not looking for a relationship and idk if he is or not.... will cross the bridge when it comes to it but I just enjoy sleeping with him and not having “clingy” feelings etc x

Sorry to clear up when I said I “like him” I didn’t mean fancy him just that we get on well and can have a laugh etc without anything being forced

@Effielouu ah okay. I think it's important to communicate so you won't end up both having other goals like him wanting a relationship while you don't.

@ROseen Yeah we both know were we stand and if he changes his mind he knows for sure he can tell me and we will just have to go from there... but for now I’m happy the way things are and appreciate the advice ☺️

i’ve currently got a fwb and it’s only the two of us who know about it, our friend group has about 25 people so if it got out it could ruin our friendship if it was turned into a big deal but as long as we keep it quiet we’re happy x

@mayella Yeah I understand you on that one. This has been kept between just us that I know of... I’d like to hope he’d inform me if any of our mutual friends found out. We go way back when and only recently got back in contact so we have a few mutual friends x