So I’ve been having sex with this guy basically once a week for the past month, but our relationship is strictly to have sex. But I feel like I’m starting to catch feelings for the guy and I don’t know if he likes me like that. He also has never made an effort to get to know me personally. Should I tell him I want to start hanging out with him without having sex sometimes?

Tell him and if not reciprocated stop all contact

^ he might just want sex since that’s all y’all have been doing. But no harm in telling him you like his company. He’ll either feel the same or he won’t. If he doesn’t you should probably stop talking to him. x

I agree with both of the above. however sometimes when i’m in your situation personally I find myself liking the attention from the guy rather than the guy himself, just something to think about

Do you guys talk? Do you know him well enough where you’re actually feeling things or is it just the attention you like? There’s no harm in asking for more, but if you guys don’t talk and he doesn’t even try to get to know you I don’t think he’ll want anything more. If he doesn’t want more and you genuinely feel something for him just cut off contact. No reason to hurt yourself over someone who only wants sex

@vCifer We Snapchat every day but there aren’t many conversations. Sometimes he hints that there could possibly be something between us in the future. We’ve been friends/acquaintances for almost a year and he plays in the WHL, so I told him I should wear a jersey with his name on it to one of his games, and he said “not yet”

I know that I would be hurt if he were to reject me, but it’s really eating at me that I’m so scared to just tell him how I feel. I’m also thinking that maybe if I just let things happen naturally instead of making a move, maybe he’ll start to like me too

Hmm “not yet” sounds like he’s not ready yet, but not against it. I would have a talk just so that you’re not constantly feeling like this war of does he want to be with me or not

@Fernymae01 the more time you let go by the more you’ll get hurt in the end if he rejects you. Communication is key is any relationship. You could definitely let it happen naturally but if he still ends up not liking you you can’t do anything about it. Y’all have known each other for a year, you should be open with him. You also don’t want him stringing you along. If there’s something there then there’s something there and If he isn’t the one then he isn’t the one. There will be someone better out there for you. I would just rather know sooner than later if I were you. I know you’re probably comfortable with how things are now, but it’ll hurt worse if keep this going without knowing his intentions. x

If you’re having feelings for him you should either tell him honestly, or end it before they develop even more.

I would tell him. If he doesn’t feel the same then you’ll know. If you don’t your feelings might get stronger and it’ll get more complicated. Fwb should be on the same page so no one gets hurt.

I would definitely tell him, I’ve been in the situation to where I didn’t until later on and got my feelings hurt.

I think you’re overthinking the “not yet”. You need to have a conversation and not let him dictate all the terms of engagement or the relationship dynamic. If you want a relationship say so

Thank you guys so much for all the advice, you have no idea how eye opening and helpful you’ve all been 💞💞💞

@Fernymae01 ♥️

Is this someone you could actually see yourself in a relationship with? It’s possible to catch feelings, especially when you’re having sex, but not actually for this person to be someone you want to/should date. Not everyone we have feelings for is the right person to pursue things further. So I would just be careful to make sure that you actually want something more and like him as a person not just that you have a crush on him.

What I’ve learned with guys, the hard way one too many times, if you’re questioning then run. Men will make it known when they want you, sexually but especially romantically. I’ve been in the same position and continued bc i thought I could separate the feelings lol it didn’t work. Just be honest w yourself