guys how do you focus during sex to orgasm ? i’m just constantly thinking about what sound to make or what to say or whatever idk i just can't focus, therefore i can never finish

During sex what helps me is to focus on the physical sensation; tuning into the physical feeling instead of your thoughts and expectations don’t overthink. Sex is supposed to be painless! You can also explore many different positions with your partner if he’s open to it, also communicating on what you’re feeling could help him put you at ease, there’s no need to worry about the sounds to make usually the sounds come out naturally when you’re pleasured.

It sounds like you are more focused on your outward appearance and performance during sex rather than your pleasure. Try closing your eyes, turning the lights off, or playing with blindfolds. You could also try setting a timer for 10 minutes where your partner exclusively focuses on you (like going down on you or fingering) and during that time you do absolutely nothing and just enjoy it.

focus on the pleasure!! think about how it feels inside you, their touches on your skin, their kisses.