So some back story: This guy has liked me for 2 years and I’ve friend zoned him before, however I’m single now (5 months out of a 2 years relationship). We’ve been hanging out a lot for about 3 weeks or so. He is very sweet and does very nice gestures towards me! We’ve made out multiple times, and done some other things, but when it comes to sex, he kinda struggles staying hard. He’s blamed it on it being too late at night, he has a cramp in his back, and the first time he said it was nerves. But we get like 10 seconds in and he just gets soft. We do a lot of foreplay before hand too, and he’s also said that he just gets hard doing the stuff before sex and he struggled to keep it up I guess. I’m not making fun of him or anything obviously, I just want to know if anyone else has experienced this and what to do moving forward? I really do like him and could see us being in a relationship, but sex is important to me and I want it to be enjoyable for both of us. Any advice please?

Maybe try talking to him in a very open conversation, make sure to let him know you aren’t judging or trying to make him feel bad but are genuinely curious what you guys can do to make a difference for him, it could just be nerves or something else but talking about it openly would be good

I’d be nervous too if the person I’ve been crushing on for 2 years is actually interested in having sex with me. Soundsss like it’s just nerves but only he knows. I wouldn’t put too much pressure on him or try to talk it out because he’s probably already putting enough pressure on himself. Just go with the flow during foreplay/sex and try enjoying each other instead of expecting to have penetrative sex. And hopefully he’ll be able to relax enough. Good luck!

^ I agree with above maybe just take it easy and give him a bit more time before saying anything about.