My boyfriend didn’t get me anything for my birthday but his gift was a lovely dinner which I’m truly grateful for. He’s always been so weird with presents and he’s uncomfortable when given one. I was expecting something but I hate feeling guilty and almost like a brat, because I do gift giving for him too. I feel bad about saying that I was expecting something on top of dinner but I just don’t know, I feel terrible. What should I do?

Have you guys ever had a conversation about gift-giving and both of your feelings about it?

Not as yet - he went so weird when mum gave him a voucher and his demeanor was so awkward

I think you need to talk about your expectations in the future. You shouldn’t have to dwell on them but I also think you need to find acceptance for your birthday this year and don’t expect him to add into it for this time.

My mum is quite aggressive and gaslighting about everything too which doesn’t help. I just wish I didn’t live at home. Sometimes I feel like ending to make it easier for everyone

@Pixielove111 how is your mother involved? Can you move out? Have you looked into the possibilities? I think you might benefit from mental help too if those thoughts are reoccurring.