Hi guys. I need to vent because I have no one to talk to about this. My ex broke up with me in October, right after his birthday, and my friend recently told me about his recent activities. He got together with the girl I told him to unfollow (she was liking all his stories when I was with him, etc.), and now they're in London together. The problem is that I begged him to go on a trip with me, and he always said he didn't have time for that. Now, seeing him do all the things I begged him for with another girl makes me so emotional. My ex lives across the street, and I still see his brother in town. His mother still follows me on Instagram. I don't know how to deal with all of this because even tho I found someone too, I’m still hurting inside and I don’t want to hurt my current partner because of my issues.

He probably settled with u but wanted her accepting that will be the best thing rn and realise you’re better off without him

sounds like your ex is a coward, the way he seemingly strung you along. you know you’re enough, i’m sure your current partner knows that too. maybe it’ll hurt less if you stop comparing your past relationship to his current. like, who cares what he’s up to now yknow? it doesn’t reflect your worth as a person and partner

Tell your friend not to give you updates on your ex. It doesn't help you to know these things and I'm not sure what value your friend saw in bringing it up, it's only hurting you.

This sounds very painful, I am so sorry you have to accept the break up this way. Break ups are the kind of situations that you can’t really force yourself to get over quickly. You just have to accept the messy emotions, whatever feelings come your way, throw yourself into your friends and new opportunities. It will get easier over time and eventually you will not even bat an eye at the life he is living. Stay busy and block everyone that posts anything about him! If you accidentally hear about his life, fair enough, but do your best to completely cut everything about him out. You’ll get through this <3

Tell yourself if not with him it will be with someone better 🤍 you’ll get to experience these things with someone who truly loves you & you’ll forget about how hurt you are now 🫶🏾