Hello ladies , How do you get comfortable or better yet how do you get yourself to like oral sex? In both aspects ... I’m not sure what it is but I don’t like to give or receive oral . I’m not sure if I’m not comfortable with it , or what it is but I don’t 🤷🏼‍♀️ which really drags because I’ve tried and from what my fiancé says I’m pretty good at giving it but I don’t really enjoy to do it , and every time he goes down on me it also feels good but I can’t cum and I feel odd at the fact that he’s down there at all.... am I too much in my head about the whole thing ? Any thoughts/ comments that might help? Thank you!

If you don’t enjoy it you don’t have to do it or get it done to you. I don’t like giving oral either. Everyone has their own preferences and what they like and what they don’t like. As long as you are both enjoying the experience that’s all that matters.

You don’t have to do anything that you don’t want to.

So maybe I just don’t know how to write what I’m really trying to get across ... so maybe go with me on this scenario , this is the best way I think I can try to explain ... its like a board game if you will, when I think about playing the game I’m exited , when I think about what partner I’ll have I’m exited to play , when I see the board game I want to play and am exited but while I’m actually playing the game it’s like I don’t really like to play , I’m not sure if it’s because i don’t know how to play properly or if I’m not sure what way the pieces are supposed to move , maybe I just really don’t like to play that particular board game but everything else but actually playing is appealing ... in the game scenario it’s also like I’m good at playing the game but I just don’t seem to pass the level, and then it’s also like what’s the point of playing a game that while I’m playing I’m not too into playing and then on top of it I can’t pass the level ... sorry if it’s confusing 😅 I’m trying my best to articulate

Do you know how to get yourself to orgasm?

@pandafan1 Yeah , my partner can also get me to orgasm just not with oral... I just don’t know what it is about oral that just makes me feel awkward

Then you don’t have to do it if it makes you feel awkward.

For me personally, I don’t feel comfortable and don’t like the idea of me doing something I don’t want to do, so I’m not giving oral.

Does it have something to do with the taboo around oral or feeling uncomfortable with your body? If not you're allowed to just not like it, that's fine too.

@aurielle I’m not really sure what it is to be honest , but I didn’t actually think that I felt awkward about it until I tried to explain , but it might be that , not really sure 😅 It really could just be I feel odd or I just don’t like it , thanks for your comments/ ideas 😬

It’s ok to not like oral. I personally love giving it, but don’t like receiving. I struggled with that for so long, because I felt like everyone around me was like ”receiving oral is the key to female orgasms!!!!!!!” And telling me it’s the best part of sex, when I just couldn’t enjoy it. I felt like a weirdo, comparing myself to others. Then I started realising that there are soo many other things I enjoy sexually and just because a lot of women love receiving oral, I don’t have to 🙌🏼

I find that oral sex is all about dominance. That you have control over your partner or they have control over you. When you can make your partner squirm or moan with pleasure you get your own satisfaction.