My fiancé is a great guy, but he can be shy. He's got two best friends from where we grew up. We now live in a different state and he's becoming closer with male coworkers here, but not to the point we would be inviting them to our destination wedding. My mom asked me if I thought he would be asking my older brother who lives in a different state than us to be a groomsmen. We all text as a family each week, but they aren't super close so I didn't wanna put pressure and make my fiancé feel awkward at his own bachelor party. He's also got a brother-in-law to be who is pretty shy himself. I'll probably have five or six bridesmaids because I have two sisters and one sister-in-law to be +2 best friends.. is it weird if I have his sister as a bridesmaid, but he doesn't ask my brother to be a groomsmen? I don't want any family to feel weird or slighted. I would love if my brother and fiancé were closer but we live far apart and my brother has a very different personality from my partner.

What are his thoughts on all this? Kinda sounds like you're pressuring him to have a bachelor party and have multiple groomsmen that he isn't even close with. Does he even want any of that? I personally thought destination weddings are generally a way to keep the guest list small - isn't it weird to have 6 bridesmaids in such case? I think it's most important for the groom to have the final say in this, let him decide if he wants a best man/groomsmen and if he even wants anything like a bachelor party. Maybe it's not something he ever would want to do.

@xnymphadora I haven't asked him to include my brother or his brother in law to be clear. Neither of us are very familiar with wedding etiquette so I was wondering if it would be odd to not include them or if they may feel upset by that. We will probably have around 60-70 guests depending on how many decide to join. 6 bridesmaids may be a larger party for that size, but I have a lot of very very close friends and sisters so it is difficult for me to reduce that number. He does want a bachelor party but he doesn't know what all he wants that to look like yet, but he's for sure asking two groomsmen so far

So yes I want it to be his choice 100% but he is having a party so I was personally wondering if I should suggest he include my brother & his brother in law or if it may be rude not to ask them. We don't know etiquette but I guess it's whatever you want at the end of the day anyways

If it were me I would ask people I am close with to be bridesmaids/groomsmen. You could remind him to include them in the party but I wouldn’t expect him to ask someone he’s not close with to be a groomsman.

^ I don’t think there’s any rules for this and it’s his wedding, so he should pick who he wants.

Groomsmen/bridesmaids are supposed to be people you are close with. I think it's weirder to force it and ask people you're not actually close to just because it's your brother. There is no rule that because his sister is your bridesmaid he has to include your brother. At my fiance's sister's wedding her husband's sister was her maid of honor but her husband didn't ask my fiance (his brother in law) to be in the groom's party.