Is it normal to overthink about my bf texting his ex girlfriend even tho he promises they are just friends?

do you have any reason to believe something more sinister is going on?

@onthepillxo they had a lot of history together but i’ve seen messages which i don’t think are right to send to an ex

I am still friends with an ex and we text so I don’t see the immediate harm of this. But you’ve said you’ve seen the messages; what kind of messages? Is there a reason why you saw the message? Did you go through his phone? Do you trust your partner to remain faithful to you?

@Yi_eune i don’t think he would be unfaithful towards me but it’s messages like compliments towards her, flirty messages. i’ve told him what’s on my mind about it and he always says he’ll sort it but nothing ever changes

flirty messages is definitely weird, you have to decide if it’s worth staying with him and dealing with it or ending it with him. tbh it sounds like he’s just telling you what you want to hear without acting on it. just need to decide whether it’s a deal breaker or not for you

@bellagrace I don’t think it is wrong to compliment someone you’re friendly with but the flirty messages are not okay. How did you find out about this? If he hasn’t sorted it the first time he promised, he never will. So it’s something you might have to decide whether it is a deal breaker or not. Flirting for me would be cheating so I would leave.

If flirting with an ex is not something you're comfortable with in a relationship it's time to clearly communicate that and leave if he can't respect it. If he hasn't changed yet he probably never will. So if it's not something you're okay with it's not the relationship for you.

That’s definitely crossing a boundary and is disrespectful, I don’t think I’d stay with him tbh