Hey girls! So I’ve been w my bf for 6 months now & everything has been so great & he treats me so well. But recently he was showing me something on his phone & he got a notification from a girl on snap so I questioned him about it & he showed me it was a notification from an influencer posting. But I noticed he was following so many girls on snap… Idk how to feel about it. But it triggered me to look at his IG following & there’s less girls but still some & I see he likes their pics. I been cheated on in the past & idk if this behavior/lust leads to infidelity in the future. I guess what is the point of men doing this?? Am I trippin for feeling sad about it?

By so many girls on snap, I meant all influencers

I obviously know I can’t control this & he prolly follows girls on all social media. But I’m triggered & spiraling. I just don’t know if this is normal or not cause I didn’t have my ex on any social media

Personally I will not be with somebody who follows a bunch of girls on social media, bring it up to him and if he doesn’t want to remove them I say leave him. A man who loves you will do anything to reassure you and do whatever it takes to keep you.

I mean do you follow any influencers and does it mean anything to you? Or mean that you are going to cheat on your bf? Generally these are people who you are never even going to meet in real life. Insecurities tend to be worse in the early stages of the relationship but usually who you follow on social media is not that deep. What matters more is your boyfriend's behaviors and whether he keeps promises and shows he's trustworthy on a daily basis.

@hotgirl03 that's very controlling.

@aurielle Not necessarily controlling if it’s something that you don’t like. A man will not care if you ask him to unfollow or not follow girls if he knows it’s something that bothers you or you don’t like. I don’t find the reason to follow girls if you have a gf, what’s the reasoning behind it? If he’s interacting with girls posts then that’s weird.

@hotgirl03 do you unfollow all guys just because you’re in a relationship?

@Yi_eune I don’t follow guys whether I’m in a relationship or not:)

Unless it’s family ofc!@Yi_eune

@hotgirl03 so you don’t have guy friends on your socials either? Bit weird if you ask me 😅 you can follow anyone without having intentions by it

I don’t have guy friends lolll even before being in a relationship I didn’t have guy friends:) @Yi_eune

Well most women have guy friends. And it’s not realistic to ask someone to stop following a whole gender just because they’re insecure. Following influencers on snap or insta does not = cheating. A partner can help to reassure you but they are not obligated to do what you tell them just because it bothers you.

@stinaaa yesss.. it doesn’t mean cheating but if you’re not okay with your bf liking posts and interacting with other girls definitely bring it up lol.

Yea I guess I just don’t know if I should even bring it up. It def makes me feel insecure but it would be worse if I told him how I felt & he kept doing it anyways…

@Mari11 maybe you should try and work on that insecurity instead, that will have lasting results and it’ll make you feel better! Having confidence in yourself and your relationship really frees up the mind.

Are they random girls that you never met or even heard about? If so I can understand why you have a problem with it.

^ I feel like this would make it easy to deal with. If it was a bunch of women he’d never actually meet in real life. Like @Yi_eune said, working on that insecurity will help you in the long run. You can bring it up to him, but you can’t make him do anything. You’d ideally want a bf to reassure you, but it would be controlling of you to make him stop following them all together. A good partner will help you with it, but your insecurities are not on him. They are yours and yours alone.

@GhostFaceLov she said they're influencers

Oh I must have not read this right. If they are influencers I don’t see a big deal most likely doesn’t mean anything not like he’s ever going to meet or see them.