Everytime I’m fingered I feel excruciating pain. I can’t ever advance to anything else. Is that normal?

Also I never enjoy anything giving or receiving head, including making out….. I don’t get it

Experiencing excruciating pain during fingering is not normal and could be a sign of a medical issue or that you may need more lubrication or gentler touch.

I’ve tried doing it myself and it didn’t hurt as much but also doesn’t feel any good

It could be because of the pill and hormones but I completely feel you. I had this era of my life where when I was kissing somebody, I was counting in my head until it was over…Not everyone enjoys the same things, and that's okay. It's important to communicate openly and honestly with your partner about what feels good and what doesn't. If you're not enjoying certain activities like giving or receiving oral sex or making out, it's okay to explore other ways of being intimate that you both find pleasurable

The thing is that I wanna have intercouse but it’s just impossible when just one finger hurts so much

Well I think you should get it checked then because experiencing pain when inserting a finger into the vagina could be a sign of a condition called vaginismus. Vaginismus is a condition where the muscles around the vagina involuntarily tighten, making penetration painful or impossible

I’ve been sexually assaulted once I hope it’s not related to that…

I’m so sorry to hear that…. It can be caused by physical issues, psychological factors, or a combination of both

I think I might check that with my doctor. Thank you so much

Definitely get checked out with a doctor x

Hiya, I’ve had similar experiences and I think it’s important to remember that regardless of what a doctor will say and the other advice like lube and being turned on (all good and important advice of course), it’s rlly important not to put pressure on yourself and drill it all down to a medical issue or issue within yourself. I’m currently down that road and part of the issue for me I fear is that i’ve put too much pressure and anxious thought into it so now it feels more daunting. Just explore to a level your comfortable with, don’t pressure yourself and take time understanding your body and you one step at a time :) and if it comes to it that certain things aren’t for you, doesn’t mean there aren’t other things that feel better. Also it might all come with time and building comfortability with yourself and/or someone else. Just don’t worry about it is what i’m trying to say, there’s not right or wrong way with this stuff ❤️❤️❤️

Thank you so much for your kind words <3