I agree with the post above. Don't do it if you are going to dread going to work every day. You need to be happy with what you do because you spend most of your time at work. Yes, having more money would be nice and help a lot, but you don't want to be miserable over it. You could find a second job, different career altogether, find another roommate. You can ignore the messages and if they ask, just tell them you aren't interested. You already told them you aren't and you can let them know again because maybe they think you will change your mind. But if you don't want the argument, you can ignore it for now