@maeve_ this isn’t always true, I have had the same worries as OP about past things I’ve done. My anxiety is about being the most honest girlfriend possible because I just… don’t ever want my partner to be blindsided by anything I do. I relate to her worries, but my partner is polar opposite from controlling. He’s never once questioned anything I do, any person I hangout with, what time I get home, nothing.
I think it’s just a personal thing where maybe she has expectations of herself or idk, anxiety is a seriously messy feeling, sometimes for no good reason.