Sex is very painful for me because I can’t get wet enough my vagina also doesn’t get to that point where it’s also like relaxed and ready. and I have a hard time getting in the mood when I’m with my boyfriend. Even when I use lube still hurts. What can I do to help this? What turns you guys on what’s the best foreplay? I ask because I’m not even sure wtf turns me on anymore. Any tips of things to try to get me in the mood and especially to get my vagina in the mood? Is my birth control the main culprit? I’ll take any advice you got.

Has this started when you got on birth control?

Is your partner actually trying to turn you on? Foreplay, making out, etc.

@Angel420 I don’t remember I started birth control before I started having sex because I have menorrhea

@maeve_ yes he really tries but like it just doesn’t do it for me as I said I’m not sure what really turns me on by all means this isn’t a him issue he doesn’t pressure me for sex he really tries, making out, massages, using his hands his mouth, grinding and I got nothin :P

Do you masturbate? Have you explored things you like on your own?

@aurielle I use a vibrator and that’s a good time for me but as for what actually turns me on I’m not quite sure it’s different when you’re alone vs when you’re with someone you know?