I need advice. I can’t let him go. I got in a relationship in august 2023 and he broke up with me in september 2024. we did not really fight throughout our relationship and everyone thought we were made for each other. he then proceeded to break up with me because he got in a bad place in life and doubted that he’s a person able to be in a committed relationship. we then, somehow startet being friends with benefits for a certain amount of time (i think I just didn’t want to lose him), however it felt like a relationship without the commitment (I still met his parents, he picked me up every week and I stayed multiple days in a row etc.). In feburary he decided that he wanted to give a relationship another try and see if we were able to make it (feelings were involved the whole time from sep-feb). now he wants to quit again, because he sometimes feels like it doesn’t make sense to keep trying, however he is willing to talk to me because he didn’t made up his mind 100% yet. I know I’m a fool for saying this but I don’t know how to handle all this. In my mind I know I should let him go but my I have so much love for him. I don’t think I’ll ever meet someone like him again. I don’t want to give us up.

He seems to be stringing you along where it’s most convenient for him. I had an ex break up with me, then he came back (🙄) and it was more fwb than anything for a few weeks, he admitted to wanting to be together again… then quickly changed his mind. Like yourself, I was the one that got broken up with and then going with what he wanted. It was SO silly.. in the end he confused me so much I got so incredibly fed up I told him I don’t see a future together and that I was done. Those 4 months being broken up before he came crawling back were the best months of my life and he only came back to ruin all the progress I made. NEVER again. Please don’t make yourself a fool for a guy who has no idea what he wants. Save yourself the time, energy, the emotional turmoil… The only answer to you knowing how to handle all of this is by telling him you will no longer tolerate someone wasting your time and move on. I met the man of my dreams 2 years after my ex and we’re celebrating 5 years this week.

Also, everyone thinks they can’t do better than an ex. Thats not true, there’s many men out there and you think the best you can do is someone who plays with your feelings? Nah girl, you just need to cut the chord and give yourself time to heal and you’ll see how much happier you are without him! Then life will open many amazing doors for you.

Thank you both! I really need to hear that. I know the right thing to do is to keep myself my no. 1 priority but it’s always hard when your heart tells you something different.

You might not want to give it up, but if you want to make a difference in your life you have to drop him completely. He is never going to change and will just hurt you over and over again for as long as you allow it. You deserve more and there are tons of people that will treat you better.