I have this friend, I’ll call her Jessica for the sake of her privacy but we have been having some issues. For some back story I set Jessica up with this guy who happens to be my boyfriend’s best friend, we will call him Zane for the sake of his privacy as well. They have been talking to each other for about 2 weeks now and on Friday Jessica asked me if he has said anything bad about her. I told her that he got mad at me for telling her some stuff that he had told me but I didn’t know I wasn’t supposed to. Jessica told me not to tell him anything anymore and I agreed not and I felt really bad. Over the weekend I tried reaching out to her to see if she wanted to hang out and she ignored all of my messages. I finally asked her if she was mad at me and she told me no but then proceeded to ignore all of my other messages. Today she sent me this big paragraph and explained how she felt. She said that I had been making them fight and putting words into their mouths and that it was completely my fault. After that she asked if we could talk in person more and I agreed. I explained to her that those weren’t my intentions and I said that I was sorry I made her feel that way. Jessica the told me that she was originally going to send a much meaner paragraph but our mutual friend stopped her. When I asked my mutual friend about it she said that Jessica wasn’t going to reach out at all to me. Not sure what to do?

Although it's best to stay out of the middle of people's relationships, it's honestly kind of wild for her to completely blame you for them fighting after they've only been talking for 2 weeks. But unfortunately you are repeating that messy pattern by talking to the mutual friend instead of only communicating with Jessica directly. You're doing the same thing that caused friction between Jessica and that guy in the first place...I think everyone needs to learn some boundaries and discretion. Know when to share information about people with your friends and when it's not appropriate.

I had no idea that I wasn’t supposed to tell Zane what Jessica had been telling me. I didn’t originally involve our mutual friend, Jessica did, and mutual friend came to me with it

@Zombie_ if someone tells you something in the future just keep it between the two of you unless you have very explicit permission to share it with someone. It’s he respectable thing to do. I’d just step back from this situation and have them sort it out by themselves. I do think it’s ridiculous all of this is happening into only 2 weeks of talking. Crazy.

Thank you all, this has really helped :)

🤣 to the fact that she put all the blame on you!! WTF 💀 wild haha. It’s super telling that 2 weeks in they are already having fights and trying to blame it on anyone but themselves. I’d say just steer clear. Even if that means hanging out with her less. Just kind of make it clear you didn’t mean to cause problems and you don’t want to be in the middle of it anymore and leave it at that. Which it sounds like you already did! Very mature of both of you to have a conversation about it. But not cool that she’s okay with just being mean to you and that some guy is coming between yall 🙄 sigh. Step away till it fizzles out.