My boyfriend and I have been in this state as well. We had one HUGE 5 day long argument about 10 days ago and since then things have been so different. We’re much more affectionate with each other and more loving, but when it comes to any negative feelings, even over small things, it’s like he’s on edge and will blow up quickly. I was hurt over something he said earlier and within 5 minutes it seemed like he was ready to start fighting with me again. It’s a weird thing in a relationship to recover from gnarly fights and we’ve both really been walking on eggshells. I feel like I can’t bring up any feelings without him being kind of a d*ck (lol sorry josh) and he feels like when he brings up his feelings I completely ignore them.
Obviously the best fix is communication, but also take time into consideration. Sometimes things simply just need to settle. For us, this had never happened and the fighting went on for so long that the recovery is also taking a bit. We’re both still shaken and a little insecure. I know it’s hard, but just try to keep things at a hushed level for awhile. Obviously don’t bottle up your feelings, but try your best to discuss everything in a calm, matter-of-fact manner. If he starts being mean or attitudinal, don’t change your tone. Stay calm. If he continues to be that way, calmly tell him never mind and keep your distance for a bit. Energy will only build if both parties give into it. Trust me when I say he’ll learn to control his emotions if you show that you can control yours even when being faced with hostility. My boyfriend had a moody few days about a month ago and when I finally did this he immediately stopped being attitudinal and hostile because he realized he kind of looked foolish having a tone with me when I was literally just chilling lol.