Hi, so last september my boyfriend of two years broke up with me. He then started talking to me again and convinced me not to be friends, we started ‘seeing how things go’, which wasn’t what I wanted. After 3 months of him saying that he doesn’t want to jump back i to a relationship whenthat was what I wanted I suggested seeing other people, I saw one person 3 times and he has never been able to let it go? 8 months later he has just ended it again saying he can’t let it go when he was pursuing and initiating things with me? Is it wrong that I went on dates and kissed someone else?

Would really love any feedback, so upset

It’s not wrong. You expressed to him that you “didn’t want to see where things go” and wanted to see other people, therefore you were not exclusive. It’s not your fault he couldn’t take no for an answer. He needs to get over himself.

Did I need to tell him about this other guy? I just don’t understand when he didn’t want to commit to me why he has the right to be mad or hurt or anything

You don’t owe him anything if you guys weren’t together. Even if you were together, you’re not obligated to tell him about your past relationships. He doesn’t have the right to be upset and is acting very immaturely. Basically he wanted you to sit around and wait for HIM to be ready.

He doesn’t have the right to be hurt. If he wanted to be with you then he should have been instead of leading you on.

You did nothing wrong in seeing other people. But i do think if you didn’t want to see where things go, you should have told him that and let it go and went different ways. There’s a reason most people don’t keep talking to exes and need space after a breakup.

Were you guys even back together officially during any of this time? Because then of course it’s not wrong for you to see other people, you weren’t in a relationship

No we weren’t in an official relationship at all, I was essentially waiting around for him to decide which I know I shouldn’t have done

He has no right to be upset and you don't need this sort of toxicity in your life. He needs to get over it and you need to cut him off