This is my second time trying to post this but if you see my original I’m sorry. It deleted out of no where. Anyways, my bf and I have been dating for 1 year and 4 months and it is getting pretty boring. I am so tired when I get home I just want to sleep. We both take a long nap together and we wake up and do nothing. We rarely have sex anymore. My sex drive is literally non existent anymore. (It’s still there I’m just tired) my bf always wants to have sex but I’m just not feeling it. He understands but he can admit it’s getting boring in our relationship. Our relationship doesn’t revolve around making love, we used to do so much together and talk about everything, but school has got us tired and stressed out. But here’s a pic of what I look like when I get home from a tiring and stressful day
Oct 18 19 01:40
^^^ we both love each other very much just to put that out there lol. Do you guys have tips on how to maybe spice things up? We talk all the time how we rarely have time to do stuff together but maybe we could do something special one night? Thanks
Oct 18 19 01:54
There was one summer where my boyfriend didn’t enjoy his summer job and I was studying and very stressed. We were both feeling kind of miserable but we started going to the gym together every night and I think that saved both of our minds. Going to workout actually can give you energy etc. even though it seems like it will make you more tired. You could try doing that together
Oct 18 19 01:56
(Going on a run together even could just take 20-30 minutes). You could replace part of your nap with going for a run
Oct 18 19 02:20
Is there anything that turns you on? Like for me when my bf would tell me “naughty” stories I would get turned on even if I was tired. Usually stories of the 2 of us hooking up w a girl, not everyone’s cup of tea I’m sure hahah but it would always put me in the mood.
Oct 18 19 02:40
Do you see each other everyday ? maybe reducing the frequency can help you
Oct 18 19 08:27
When me and my boyfriend feel our relationship has got boring/struggling, we go on a date. This could be in the day or at night. We get dressed up and go out and try to be present in the moment and just talk and have fun and laugh. You could go for a meal, a walk in the park, picnic, bowling..
Oct 18 19 08:29
^We have also got a cheap hotel room for the night too, not just for sex, but for our own space and a change in scenery. Date nights are alwaysssss important 💕
Oct 18 19 14:55
We love to go grocery shopping together and prepare fun meals. Also, having your own space is so important even if you might live together, he plays video games while I watch YouTube/Netflix. Plan date night so you can have something to look forward to.
For the sex part, try to initiate sex while you’re not tired yet? Talk together about your turn ons and your fantasies.