Hey all, this is kinda a long one
I was wondering if this had ever happened to anyone before, one day I sorta snapped out of lust. My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship and the only sex we can do is with FaceTime. The day it happened we were have sex virtually and something snapped in my mind where I didn’t really enjoy him finishing as much as I normally did. There was a physical change in my body and I think he could see on my face even when he was finishing that I didn’t enjoy it as much as I used to. And in the moment was so weird and took me by surprise.
The weird feeling was so weird because it’s almost like I ‘came to’ like when you come out of a fog or the way you sober up in a few minutes or so. After that I have not felt as sexually driven to him as I used to be. He used to drive me crazy for him, more then any guy had ever made me before in all honestly and I loved it so much. In the past I have never actually became wet from just the idea of sex with a guy, or kissing them, or dirty talk or sexing or anything before him. I’ve never even been comfortable enough to do a lot of those things with other guys that I’ve done with him and enjoyed doing as well. My ex actually kinda shamed me some times about my sex drive and made me badly about it. He used sex against me through out our relationship and I never felt as comfortable with him as I do with my current boyfriend. Honestly I used to have a lot of pain with my ex even during sex, I would not get as aroused and sex would be very painful.
It’s hurting our relationship and I’d do anything to go back to the way it used to be. He sensed it fairly quickly when it happened. I almost went a little crazy and had to ask my self if I was even attracted to him at all at the time because it’s like I almost gaslit myself kinda into thinking if this happened it’s cause I’m not attracted to him.
On top of that, I was obsessing so much about what it meant and why it happened for a while that I started to change and almost not talk to him the same way. I still don’t have the high sex drive and excitement I used to and it makes me so sad.
Does anyone have any any idea of what happened? Or what it could have been? Why it was from one minute to the next? I’m still working on getting back to where we used to be, but we are long distance so it makes it so much harder. Please help if you can. I really want to go back to the way we used to be, I used to love our chemistry together.
I also was not on birth control at all, I know that can change sec drive. There wasn’t anything I was taking, it just happened.
Thanks all!