Please help. Recently my boyfriend of 2 years finished with me out of the blue. I didn’t expect it at all. I had been away for 2 weeks on a family holiday and the day I got home he finished with me. He told me he didn’t think he was able for a relationship and he didn’t know how he felt. He told me he still cares about me and loved me. I told him after that I don’t want to loose him completely as we were not just boyfriend/girlfriend we were best friends. He told me he needed space and hasn’t contacted me since. I’m hurt and confused, he told me he had been thinking about it before I went away, (so probably 3weeks it’s been on his mind) and during this time we were talking about booking to go away to Spain together) Today I seen he was out with another girl. They were friends while we were together but while we were together he used to tell me he was “too tired” to go out after work but I see him online out with this girl after work?? I don’t know what to do. Am I better off cutting him off, or do I wait and see if he reaches out as he said he would like to remain friends but needs his own space for now. I feel like I have no answers as it all happened out of no where and so suddenly. Do I sit here and believe he still cares and needs time or was he just letting me down gently ?!?

It’s entirely possible (and likely) that he still does care about you and needs space right now, but that doesn’t mean you can or should wait around for the potential of him coming back. Definitely cut contact w him for the moment, it’s hard, but you can always reevaluate whether you want to reconnect w him at a later date, once you’re fully over him in a romantic way. Just bc he’s out w a girl doesn’t mean they’re dating and it doesn’t say anything about how much he cared about you when you were together. Having said that, definitely block or delete him for the time being so you can’t see his social media. Take care yourself and try to distract yourself for the time being. It will get better!!

100% cut him off. Definitely do not waste your time waiting for him. Maybe you guys will be friends again in the future but you need to get over him before you can do that. You don’t need to see what he’s up to now, block him and ask your friends to not talk about what they see him doing. My ex broke up with me suddenly and without explanation after 4 years. I know it’s really hard but you can and you will get through this. Honestly you probably will never find out why he made that decision so try not to dwell on it. Tbh maybe you’re better off not knowing. You will be fine look after yourself, spend time with friends and loved ones ❤️