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Mar 13
18:23
Do you think it’s okay to have sexual contact with your 3rd cousin??
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Mar 13
18:25
Um... no.
 
Mar 13
18:25
I don’t even know any of my third cousins so I think that would be fine, however it kind of depends on the relationship you have with them. If you consider them part of your family it might be kinda weird.
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Mar 13
18:26
This has always confused me what’s the difference between first second and third cousins, I know I probably sound so dumb
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Mar 13
18:32
@_char first cousin is your parents siblings’ child, second cousin is your parents cousins’ child etc.
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Mar 13
18:37
I find it weird
 
Mar 13
18:37
No....
 
Mar 13
18:48
(in my opinion) you shouldn’t have sexual contact with anyone that’s your family, especially blood relation.
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Mar 13
18:52
I pressed the end one by accident but i think it would be weird because they are still directly related to you.
 
Mar 13
18:55
I don’t think it’s ok. You’re still related on a level and I just think it’s still too close to home to have any kind of sexual encounter with them.
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Mar 13
18:56
Big no
 
Mar 13
19:00
@Simba123 ohhh thank you!!
 
Mar 13
19:02
No there’s so many people out there so why go for your cousin.
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Mar 13
19:03
I don’t think people really understand how closely related all humans are, especially people from the same country or ethnicity. We all have hundreds if not thousands of third and fourth cousins, and you’ve probably met some of them without even knowing they’re related to you. All humans on earth are theoretically just 15th cousins of each other. The majority of marriages in history were between 2nd cousins and closer.
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Mar 13
19:04
It is not okay. Also, isn’t it illegal too?
 
Mar 13
19:06
@Mellifluous_ it’s definitely not lol. In most places it’s not even illegal to marry a first cousin.
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Mar 13
19:06
I know and grew up close with all my cousins so for me I wouldn’t. But you are far along the family line it wouldn’t cause genetic issues i think. So if you didn’t know them as cousins, I have no judgment for who people fall for. ^ I don’t think it’s Illegal. Only marriage to closer family is.
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Mar 13
19:06
@Mellifluous_ it’s usually illegal to marry direct family members such as siblings & parents etc
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Mar 13
19:07
@aurielle Creepy.. I’ve heard of some states allowing second cousin marriage but never first. Ew..
 
Mar 13
19:08
@Mellifluous_ in the UK it is frowned upon to marry a cousin and they’re trying to ban it because of higher risks of birth defects or something like that, I’ve just googled it and it says it’s illegal to marry a Mother Father Son Brother Sister Grandparents Grandchildren Uncles or aunties Nieces or nephews No cousins mentioned though
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Mar 13
20:06
I wouldn’t knowingly date a third cousin cause I’d find that weird. I think it depends how close your families are x
 
Mar 13
21:28
My parents are distant cousins. Historically, people married their cousins/distant relatives or neighbors. Aziz Ansari wrote about it in his book Modern Romance
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Mar 13
23:03
A third cousin of mine told my ex boyfriend that if we weren’t cousins he would “totally bang” me. Let’s just say I really don’t like him and never talk to him now
 
Mar 13
23:09
My friends grandparents are first cousins. The thought still creeps me out, only because of how close I am to my first cousins 😖
 
Mar 13
23:13
????? Third cousins as so distant. That’s your great grandparent’s sibling, most people don’t even know who their great grandparents are. If you’re dating someone who is the same race as you and from the same place there is a pretty good chance that you’re distantly related.
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Mar 13
23:17
Your great grandparent’s sibling’s great grand child* not your great grandparent’s sibling lol whoops
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Mar 13
23:52
To add: the relative that you and your third cousins are directly related to is your great great grandparent. That means that roughly 1/16 of your genes come from the same person, though they probably aren’t even the same genes since they wouldn’t have passed in exactly the same thing to two different children.
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Mar 13
23:54
It’s legal to marry your second cousin so third cousins are nothing. I’d still find it a tad weird though
 
Mar 14
00:04
It depends on the state in the US but some don’t allow first cousins to marry, to go off the discussion above. There was a news story I read recently that a couple who were each other’s first cousins had to leave their home state to get married, and were now petitioning to have it legalized in their home state. To go off this post, no I would not *knowingly* date even a third cousin, I wouldn’t be comfortable with that to be honest lol.
 
Mar 14
00:28
I wouldn’t do it knowingly
 
Mar 14
02:26
Personal opinion: I think it’s okay. As long as you didn’t grow up with them and weren’t close. Like I have a cousin that I consider a brother so I obviously wouldn’t ever want to have any sexual relations with him. But a third cousin I’ve barley spoken to ever if at all? Eh not a big deal to me, personally.
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Mar 14
09:03
I personally wouldn’t, however there isn’t anything wrong with it. I know a few people who’s parents are cousins, so being third cousins is basically no relation at all
 
Mar 14
09:32
So many people in the world why your blood relative ...... :(
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Mar 14
10:47
I’m honestly 100% sure that there are people on this app even that are dating third cousins and don’t know it. I’ve met basically every second cousin I’m related to and I still wouldn’t have any way of knowing who out there could even be a third cousin, since I don’t know my family going back that far. That’s from before most of my ancestors even moved to the US, so I’ve got third cousins all over Europe too that I would have no way of knowing if I’m related to. We’re talking about the descendants of people who were siblings in the mid-late 1800s, with no other related family in the mean time.
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Mar 14
11:13
I think that’s the difference though @schwa as long as you don’t know them from a family context, I agree it is completely fine. Third cousins is distant enough that I wouldn’t find it weird, as long as they hadn’t specifically known beforehand that they’re related
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Mar 14
11:35
@phil yes I definitely agree that if you know them as a family member that’s different! I have family members that I’m not even related to by blood and I can’t imagine ever seeing them in a romantic context.
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Mar 14
14:11
That’s what I was saying about the closeness. I have “family” in Brazil I’ve literally only seen twice my entire life. I don’t consider them family because we don’t have that closeness. So for me, sexual relations wouldn’t be the weirdest thing to have with one of them. But it’s also not something I go out of my way to look for/find. So I think it’s all about that feeling. Cause there are also some close friends I grew up with that I consider family that I’d never do anything with. There’s also a difference between dating and just sexual attraction.
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Mar 14
16:27
My mom dated her third cousin when she was younger (they.m both had no clue they were third cousins) and when they both told their parents they were dating, they made them breakup lol
 
Mar 14
17:16
@smil that sucks
 
Mar 14
19:25
@aurielle lol i know, it’s really funny for her to look back on though. they’re still great friends & my moms adopted, so technically they didn’t share any dna, but ya know
 
Mar 14
19:51
I feel like a lot of the times people will break up after finding out or won’t ever let it happen because it’s taboo. And “wrong”. Like your mom is adopted and they still made them break up. Probably because they didn’t want people talking “oh did you know *person* is dating their cousin??” I find that stuff so annoying lol
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Mar 14
21:16
@bellalasoares well they also were not comfortable with dating anymore after finding out, but it’s still a funny story lol
 
Mar 15
12:47
If I was aware that someone was my 3rd cousin, I would feel totally weird about having sexual contact with them
 

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