I don't rally have a questioning, just want opinions or thoughts. I have a problem sometimes with my bfs past sexual relationships. My bf slept around alot before I met him. I never had an issue with it before and I often forget about it. It even passes in one ear at the other when it's brought up in story or something that he's slept around or he hooked up with someone before when talking aboutthe past with friends. I get a problem and I feel physically sick cause i start to imagine it when he starts to go into detail about his hookups. And he talks about these details when no one asked. I don't care that he has a past but I feel like getting sick when he likes to talk about it.

I think it’s pretty weird that he talks about past hookups. Everyone has them and it’s normal and nothing to be ashamed of but going into detail about them, especially in front of your partner, is weird and disrespectful. Have you talked to him about how you feel?

I don’t think it’s disrespectful or weird. I personally find it interesting to hear about my partner’s past hookups or sexual experiences and have found many people feel the same way. But it’s completely valid that you would rather not hear about it!! Just talk to him and let him know that you would prefer he not talk about the details of his past sexual experiences in front of you. That’s a completely reasonable request!!

Yes he knows I don't like hearing the details. He still talks about it and blames everything like talking about hookups but he's the only one saying details. No one else mentions weather their ex was waxed and what she was wearing. Or pointing to the spots in him room and explaining how room was set up. He sees the look on my face and just laughs and says sorry

@Kitty0806 he’s obviously not respecting that boundary. And if you’ve talked about how it makes you uncomfortable and he keeps doing it, just goes to show that he doesn’t care. I’d say break up with him 🤷🏻‍♀️

Agree with @grazydol8 I personally wouldn’t want to be with someone where I couldn’t talk about my past experiences (not the intricate details though). If you’ve spoken to him about it though and he’s not respecting that boundary then you need to reconsider the relationship x

It sounds like he’s getting an ego boost out of you feeling insecure. He needs to get his head out of the past and focus on you. If you tell him how it makes you feel and you ask why he seems to love talking about his past hookups in such details, and he does nothing - then you need to rethink the relationship x

@Awg1 I don't care if he talks about it. Like I said most of the time it's in one ear out the other. It's It's vivid details he loves to talk about and he talk about it to me not just in front of me. Like tonight he brought up one of his favorite memories when it was just him and I and I didn't ask or was I talking about it in any way.

Yeah that’s a bit weird, especially describing it as one of his favourite memories too, agree with @lilypad0794 with that being the case

He's disregarding your feelings and requests, also feel like it's a bit disrespectful to his ex and past partners to be sharing that level of detail like whether they were waxed or not...?

If you’ve asked him to stop talking about it and he won’t, I would seriously reconsider the relationship. Not only is he making you feel bad by talking about it but he’s completely disregarding a clear boundary that you’ve set and that’s a massive red flag.

I agree with @grazydol8

He honestly sounds like a dick. There’s no point in bringing up so much detail about previous experiences unless you two WANT to have a friendly conversation about it. It’s disrespectful to you because you’ve already asked him many times to stop. It’s not ok to disregard your partner’s feelings. It’s also disrespectful to all the other people he’s had a past with. Graphic details about happened in their sex lives stays between them, especially if it’s about their own bodies. His sex stories are not trophies and he has no right making comments about his previous partners. If my partner kept talking about his past while knowing how much I don’t appreciate it and laugh in my face afterwards I’d be gone. That level of insensitivity and carelessness says a lot about who he is. I don’t think the problem here is his sexual past. The issue here is that he’s dismissive, weird, and downright rude. It’s okay to talk about sex with friends and your partner but you’ve clearly told him to cut it off and he purposefully continues to make you feel bad. Your partner should never intentionally do anything to make you uncomfortable.

I agree with the above comments. The detail he’s going into is unnecessary and honestly just weird, as well as being very disrespectful to his previous partners. Bringing up the subject out of no where is strange. Like I’d be questioning why he’s doing this... why does he feel the need to continually tell you all this? Continuing to do this again and again after you have repeatedly asked him stop is a big red flag, he is completely dismissing and ignoring your boundaries - unacceptable.