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Aug 9 20
12:10
I have a question. If a guy in a relationship follows girls with an Onlyfans, they’re not necessarily subscribed to it but they follow the girls social media where they post some of their pics/vids, is that considered the same as looking at porn? Therefore it’s not a big deal?
 
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Aug 9 20
12:16
What’re your opinions?
 
Aug 9 20
12:24
Yeah it’s not a big deal he can find other girls attractive in a relationship, it’s just a fantasy thing
 
Aug 9 20
12:25
My boyfriend will always look at girls butts and he tells me “just because I eat at Burger King doesn’t mean I can’t look at McDonald’s” which is true. As long as he isn’t touching other girls I feel like it isn’t an issue.
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Aug 9 20
12:31
I think if they were paying money to see and watch another girl on onlyfans then I would have an issue with that! But otherwise following them on Instagram is not a big deal. Majority of men watch porn even in a relationship so I wouldn’t worry x
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Aug 9 20
12:34
@Beauty2020 do you mean you’d have an issue if he knew the girl personally or even if it was just a stranger? because i can understand the issue if it is someone he knows personally but if it’s a stranger i don’t see how it’s any different to watching pornhub or other sites
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Aug 9 20
12:45
@Beauty2020 why would that not be okay? If he enjoys the pornographic content then I don’t see an issue with it if he wants to pay for/support the content creator for what they do? Especially when it’s his own money?
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Aug 9 20
12:47
@mayella I don’t know I just think it’s wrong if he was to pay money to watch another girls porn/very explicit videos. Watching porn is fine but going to the extent to physically pay money is just not right but it’s all my opinion.
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Aug 9 20
13:03
@beauty2020 Watching porn on free sites such as pornhub and paying for someone’s only fans or personal porn site is the exact. same. thing. It’s just that society has normalised using free sites that exploit women/sex workers, making it seem absurd that people would pay for individual access to porn. If they’re paying that would be better in my eyes than using pornhub etc. as it means they’re supporting sex work in a substancial way (financially).
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Aug 9 20
13:08
@beauty2020 Lol what that’s much more ethical, guys should be doing that instead of using free sites!
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Aug 9 20
13:10
@channelorang when you put it that way that’s true! But still I think the idea of him paying to watch one specific girl just makes me uneasy but yes it’s the more moral thing to do.
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Aug 9 20
13:10
@Beauty2020 but how’s that any different to him subscribing to a porn site? the way i see it is he’s supporting a sex workers business and it’s his money he can do what he wants.
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Aug 9 20
13:12
Onlyfans is much more ethical than pornsites, a women has full autonomy over her content and body and get the income. Pornhub is a free site that indulges in sex trafficking, I would much rather my bf indulge in onlyfans where he pays for content than pornhub. I think it’s an insecurity thing because a lot of women don’t like the idea of their bf paying money for another girl but it’s nothing wrong at all.
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Aug 9 20
13:13
@Blue_sloth agreed
 
Aug 9 20
13:15
@beauty2020 But it’s the same as him following that girl on insta like the question said, just being more ethical about it by actually paying to see her stuff. Its just a fantasy not like they’ll ever meet her x
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Aug 9 20
13:37
@Beauty2020 I can kind of get how it would seem more personal because it’s one girl and he’s paying her directly, but again I would see that as the equivalent of him using pornhub and only watching one person’s videos every time. Also- there are countless reasons he’s with you, and not her!! If you weren’t enough for him, or you didn’t compare to this girl he watches, then he just wouldn’t be with you. Just because she fulfills something for him when he’s getting off, doesn’t mean he cares for you any less or anything like that.
 
Aug 9 20
13:37
i’ve never used onlyfans so i’m not entirely sure how it works, i’m guessing the photos and videos get personally sent to each person that pays for them? or are there just general photos that you get to see after paying? (if it’s the first one then i would consider that as cheating and do not think it’s the same as watching porn as it’s more personal and intimate) OP- no there’s nothing wrong with following someone on instagram, he can follow who he wants
 
Aug 9 20
13:41
@Honeyaliciax onlyfans is a subscription to see someone’s photos and videos, they’re not sent directly between people x
 
Aug 9 20
13:42
@Honeyaliciax it’s more like patreon
 
Aug 9 20
14:58
Thanks for all your input guys it was really helpful! I guess I’ve been struggling to tell myself that it’s just a fantasy following girls with onlyfans and looking at that kind of stuff. I’ve been trying to work on it cos I don’t acc like the fact that I’m feeling insecure about it. So thanks for all the opinions xx
 
Aug 9 20
15:38
@ann98_ honestly don’t feel bad at all, it’s a personal growth within yourself and maturity. Once i stopped caring about my bf following accounts of confident women, It made me so much more mature. Learn to trust ur bf fully and know that he loves you and you only ok :)
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Aug 9 20
15:45
Thank you 🥺 @blue_sloth
 

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