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May 1 21
13:54
TW: food, weight, restriction, calories So one of my friends recently lost weight almost a year ago, but i’m really worried now because she mostly eats one meal a day or two meals and i’m not sure if it’s because she wants to keep the weight off and is eating less because of that reason? i’m not sure how to approach her about it because I can’t force her to eat. she’s probably eating about 1000 calories a day and it’s dangerous. I’m also so triggered by her not eating because i’ve struggled with restriction and it doesn’t help that i’m trying to heal my relationship with food while she doesn’t eat much. any suggestions?
 
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May 1 21
14:13
While I do completely understand your concern, it’s not any of your business and I’m wondering why you’re monitoring what she’s eating..? I would recommend avoiding discussing her eating habits and how much she eats, instead ask her how she’s doing in general and maybe say something like you feel she hasn’t really been herself and that you’re a little worried. As you’re finding her habits triggering it might be a good idea to take some space from her when it comes to food and meals, and intentionally avoiding taking note of what she eats. Maybe try and spend more time doing things with her that don’t involve food (unfortunately not easy I know)
 
May 1 21
14:49
@bluerose9 thank you, it’s because we live together with other friends in a uni flat and we’re all very close so we spend time together a lot. but I agree I’ll ask her how she’s doing in general and spend time with her without involving food. it’s because we’re all in the flat together in the common space so it’s just something that I have observed
 
May 1 21
14:53
@bc778 ooh fair enough. Definitely try to stop looking at what kind of food she keeps in the cupboard/fridge and maybe if you know her mealtimes avoid being in the kitchen and do something else while she’s eating and cooking!
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May 1 21
15:45
@bluerose9 thanks so much! 😊
 

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