If your partner was sick and you live with them (they had a sickness bug, something contagious) would you sleep in the same bed as them? As someone with health issues my immune system is compromised so I wouldn’t but this doesn’t make me selfish. If you can avoid being ill why wouldn’t you?! Also, I have a massive fear of sick. If he had the flu, I would sleep in the same bed because I don’t mind catching a cold... interested to see your guys opinions.

If my immune system is compromised and I didn’t want to risk my health I would definitely sleep elsewhere.

If I had a compromised immune system then I wouldn’t sleep in the same bed with him, and I’d expect him to understand that. It’s not selfish at all.

@Hissteria I had a debate with a friend who said it would be selfish to sleep in a different room whilst he is suffering , he’s your life partner etc but it’s all a personal choice I think. If you don’t mind getting violently ill then that’s the choice you’ve made.

I probably would, but my immune system is fine. It’d probably depend on how badly ill he was as well

Do whatever you’re comfortable with. I personally wouldn’t if my immune system was compromised.

I don’t currently live with my bf. I mean when I had pneumonia my bf didn’t want to see me until I was healed. I understood that since pneumonia is contagious. Plus I was feeling awful and just wanted to sleep. Though my bf has a better immune system than I do. I just have a regular immune system.

@Pandafan1 that’s understandable. Especially since it can be life threatening in some cases regardless of immune systems. It’s all a personal choice I just think you have to respect if either party wants to stay with you. Personally, I prefer being by myself when I’m sick and just watching films. I don’t even like my own family being around me so I wouldn’t mind.

depends what it is, if it were just like a small cold i would probably just sleep next to him but if he had strep then i would sleep somewhere else.

but if my immune system were compromised i wouldn’t sleep in the same room regardless.

As someone who suffers with emetiphobia, I’d avoid all contact with anybody who suffers and would isolate myself until I deem the person as safe. At a push I’d take them a glass of water.

It’s 100% not selfish to sleep in a different bed/room when your SO is sick. If I had a compromised immune system I definitely would sleep in the same room, but even with my immune system I would sleep elsewhere simply because I hate being sick lol it’s not the biggest deal imo

** if it was a cold or flu, I wouldn’t be bothered and would continue sleeping together etc.

@ImTheOne I suffer with this too I think. I have avoided people who have bugs etc. I would definitely sleep somewhere else especially since bugs usually are 24 hour and to be safe 3 days after. Not that long away from your SO

It really doesn’t matter if your immune system is compromised or not because no matter what, nine times out of ten, people pick up the stomach bug so quickly and pass it around and just because you don’t sleep in the same bed doesn’t mean you won’t get it.

It depends. When he has a normal cold or something it’s not a big deal. But when he had pink eye I didn’t sleep in the room since it is so contagious

I think if I had the space/extra bed, i’d sleep separately. I’d keep checking on them and help them if I could but same as @amalia, for a cold I wouldn’t bother sleeping separate

I had the flu twice this past winter. Slept in our spare room multiple nights so we both could sleep better. Also used our other bathroom room. We have the extra space so I distanced so my husband wouldn’t get sick.

@nie1 did he get it?

If I had a compromised immune system I probably would sleep in a different room but I don’t so it doesn’t bother me. Do what’s right for you, it’s not selfish.

If it was just a cold I’d stay on the same bed unless it was stopping one of us from getting a good nights sleep. I live with him anyway so would be bound to catch it either way!

TW//sickness/ mentions word deadly. I’m sorry, I wasn’t going to say anything, but then I decided too....your post saying “if it was the flu, I would...” is condensing because the flu is just as deadly. Also, if you’re Immunocompromised then you should definitely stay away from people who have the flu. There are countless of deaths every year because of the flu.

I’m with you on this, I have a phobia of vomiting, so I would try and stay away from my partner but help them where necessary. I don’t think it’s selfish, especially if you have a compromised immune system.

Depends on the Illness. Cold or stomach bug? Sleep in the same bed. Flu or COVID? Separate bed. When I was exposed to a possible Covid case, I slept in a separate bed for 2 weeks because my boyfriend was compromised

@BEAUty2020 Sorry for the late response but nope. He stayed healthy through both bouts of the flu for me. He also was thankful to be able to sleep through the night without me tossing and turning next to him.