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Oct 8
00:35
For the past 3 or so months I’ve been sneaking out every so often to my boyfriends house. (We’re both 13 and he lives 15 minutes away.) Id usually wait until my mom goes to bed, then I would sneak out the front door. I get back in using my moms house key. I did end up telling my mom about it and I promised to never do it again.... but I’ve done it about 8 times now without her knowing. I also lost my virginity when I was 12 and I’m now on birth control... but my mom doesn’t know I’ve had sex. My boyfriend and I like using knives and rope and other BDSM-Related things. I don’t know how to feel about all of this.... I don’t want to stop but I feel like a dirty, horrible person. Opinions...? 😬
 
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Oct 8
00:38
12 is pretty young to be having sex in my opinion.
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Oct 8
00:39
13 is also pretty young to be doing BDSM related things.
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Oct 8
00:41
I kinda wish these kids would enjoy their youth. At 12 I wanted nothing to do with sex, I wanted to go to sleepovers and braid my hair lol. I’m just kind of mind blown that a 13 year old is doing BDSM and sneaking out. Go to school and hangout with your friends. 🤷🏻‍♀️
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Oct 8
00:44
@adwww98 Right? Like damn. I knew about BDSM when I was 17 but I didn’t do anything in regards to BDSM until I was in my 20’s.
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Oct 8
00:53
And my mom would molly whoop my ass for sneaking out period especially at a boys house
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Oct 8
00:58
@kitkat2101 You shouldn’t feel dirty. I think it is good you’re protecting yourself against pregnancy. Please make sure to always have and give consent, protect yourself against STDs (ie use condoms), and get tested. I do think that it’s not good to sneak out and lie to your mom. It can make you feel worse about the situation. It’s best to be honest with your family, avoid sneaking out, and and not do anything that makes you feel bad about yourself. It can be very hard for a parent to be involved and help you emotionally if you’re hiding things from them. I have a younger sister who was involved with guys at a young age too, and it worried my mom and I both that she seemed to have secrets. We found out later how hard it was on her to hide things, and everyone (including my sister) wished that she had communicated earlier with us
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Oct 8
01:15
Don’t feel dirty. But also, don’t sneak out and lie to your mom about where you’re going, she has your best interests at heart, and if for some reason something happened and you fall and get hurt walking over to your bf’s or something it could be a long time until your parents realize you’re gone, it’s better to just be honest. The best thing I can recommend is to find an adult you’re comfortable speaking to (whether that’s your mom, an older sibling, an older cousin, an aunt or uncle, or even a nurse at planned parenthood). And educating yourself about sex, consent, pregnancy prevention, healthy relationships, and STI prevention. Educate yourself on how to properly use your pill and condoms. And make sure you’re getting regularly tested regardless of how much you trust your partner, and use condoms with any new partners and partners who haven’t been tested. If you’re going to be sexually active then you need to take charge of your sexual health in all aspects. And find an adult you can confide in. Planned parenthood is a wonderful place if you need sexual health advice or to ask any sex related questions! And above all else, be safe and make sure any sexual activity is consensual. Don’t ever feel pressured to do anything if you aren’t feeling comfortable with it. Any guy who pressures you is TRASH. These other posts may also be helpful to you: What can make the pill less effective? {iehA0JxF4} Why even virgins should get tested: {95hA0JxnF} How to properly use condoms, and why it's important: {o5hA0JxQK} Info on female orgasms and sexuality: {JAhA0JxhD} Issues with sexual compatibility w/partner: {3xhA0Jxwl} Resources regarding emotional abuse, domestic violence, sexual assault, and sexual harassment (alphabetical by country): {z5hA0Jxqv}
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Oct 8
01:23
I just know that at 13 I was definitely not ready to be dealing with sex in a healthy way. No matter how mature you are, sex brings up some complicated issues that even adults sometimes aren’t emotionally equipped to deal with. So please be safe and cautious. It’s okay to say no regardless of how many times you’ve done it. If you aren’t feeling okay about something you aren’t obligated to continue. You aren’t “wrong” or “dirty” for having sex at all! I just worry that being so young you may be put into a situation you aren’t comfortable or okay with.
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Oct 8
01:28
Everything @sams2095 said
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Oct 8
01:30
Also, the website scarleteen has lots of educated info on relationships and sexual health if you’re ever looking for any guidance.
 
Oct 8
15:47
Please tell me this is a troll post, if I found out someone has been using knives on my 13 yo daughter/son, the police would be involved so fast...
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