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Jun 9 21
21:50
advice on friendship needed! so i’m very much a friend who doesn’t need to talk to my friends or hang out with them everyday to be close. i get overwhelmed really easily spending time with people and talking to them 100% of the time and sometimes i try to do that to appease others and then it has an impact on my mental health. a couple of my closest friends get upset when i don’t always respond to texts or don’t want to hang out and they think that me spending alone time means i don’t want to hang out with them. it constantly makes me feel like i’m being a really bad friend and i’m not enough for them. any advice on this?
 
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Jun 9 21
21:55
have you communicated your feelings with them? i’m sure they’d understand that it has an impact on your mental health
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Jun 9 21
21:57
I am like this too. I don’t like hanging out all the time and maintaining closeness. I would prefer to go weeks or even months without hanging out. You should if you haven’t already explain to them that you’re just not the kind of person who wants to be around 24/7, and that you need your own time to recuperate and recharge your social batteries. It’s not fair for them to make you feel left out or make you feel like a bad friend. Good friends will understand you and will understand when you want to be left alone until you’re ready to come around.
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Jun 9 21
22:13
The best thing to do is to talk to them about how you value your alone time. I’m sure they’d understand if they’re good friends
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Jun 9 21
22:18
I’m the same way but I’ve noticed it depends on the friends. I think it would help to respond to texts but if you don’t feel like hanging out that’s ok. I’ve noticed that the friends I don’t see as much usually want to do expensive things but my very best friends love to just hang out, go for a hike, just talk, and then yes at times we dress up and go out. If you want to keep these friends, maybe just make some time here and there to meet for coffee. But if they can’t accept that you’re not always free or want to go out, that’s kind of immature in my opinion.
 

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