Thoughts on your SO not liking or agreeing to you posting pictures with any type of cleavage showing?

I don’t agree with it, it does sorta depend on how they go about it though, me ex would tell me I’m not allowed to post selfies with any of my chest showing, ,my current girlfriend told me she doesn’t really like it, if the photo is focused on my chest or something but she knows it’s my body so she’s not going to stop me

Not their body so not their opinion to have. It’s all out of insecurity

Sounds incredibly controlling.

Sounds like it’s not their business.

Actually sounds like they would be significantly single

@okceleste damn😂

What @okceleste said.

Drop his a$$$

I feel like if its occasionally here n there sometimes its ok but if a girl does it everyday constantly then it looks wrong but thats my opinion

@Katieee298 your opinion is wrong 🤷🏻‍♀️

Idc wtf u say😂😂😂😂 thats YOUR opinion

@Katieee298 nah it’s a fact lol.

Been in a happy relationship for a while so ur opinion dont bother me what so ever mama

@Katieee298 what does you being in a relationship have to do with women doing whatever the f•ck they want with their bodies?

@katara_ I understand your frustration and you’re actually the one that’s completely right but you’re setting yourself up for an argument. Ignorance is bliss, we all know she’s wrong and wish her the best for her self love journey but let’s not argue with people who are miserable

See ur dragging it. When um in a relationship i feel like there are boundaries when it comes to certain things. i MYSELF do not feel comfortable showing off things a little extra when i have a bf. U came at me for no reason everyone has their own ways. I am not miserable im actually pretty happy.

@okceleste you know what, you’re totally right. Ignorance really is bliss.

@katieee298 you’re giving someone very unhealthy advice, though, and you’re degrading women by saying “it looks wrong.” Women can do whatever they want, just because you choose to follow your boyfriend’s every wishes doesn’t mean you should advise other people to do the same.

well sorry ur father didnt love u raising u

@katieee298 you thought you did something with that? Lmaooooo.

Lmaooooo I can’t. pobrecita

He not my daddy to be telling me what and what not to post so 🤷🏾‍♀️

Literally don't listen to that chick above, OP. My thoughts and honestly the facts about this is that he doesn't own you and it's none of his business to be disagreeing with it. His 2 cents on what you do with your life and what makes YOU feel good do. not. matter. He's insecure and that's HIS issue. Showing cleavage literally doesn't prove or say anything about you. You know why? Because it's just a part of your damn body and it's other people's fault if they choose to sexualize it.

@Katieee298 I didn't realize having tits counts as being "extra"?

@xixv good ass speech🙏🏻

They have no control in what I post.

My husband has no say in what I post or don’t post because it’s my social media. The only time I might ask about a picture is if he is in it, that way I make sure he likes that picture as well. I don’t believe SO should have a say in what you post.

YOUR BOOBS NOT HIS

Cleavage is literally like... its your boobs existing. To cover up cleavage would be hard work and you’d have to buy different clothes. This is PERFECTLY fine and it’s 100% up to you.

My ex would get mad at me for posting a picture in a crop top. Literally only having my stomach showing. Men who try to tell you what you can and can’t post are controlling. It’s your body do what you want with it.

@ripsandbits16 I wore a crop top and high waisted shorts out to the bar for our friends birthday the other week. Someone made a comment to me and my bf about if he cared I was showing skin/ not being covered. My boyfriend was like she looks hot and is rocking it, I’m the lucky one why would I care 😂

@tiff10 I was wearing a dress so open in the boobs area that I had to wear nipple covers in case of a nip slip. My bf told me I looked amazing and minded his business. I don’t understand these insecure men

Honestly I don’t think it’s okay for them to be controlling but sometimes I do get carried away with showing certain features of my body that attract other men and I can understand sometimes when my boyfriend doesn’t feel comfortable me posting a picture that is focused on my cleavage. And I you understand him as if he was posting a picture that focused on his d*ck size or showed an imprint of it I would feel extremely jealous and uncomfortable and tell him no. It works both ways but I feel like they have their line they can’t cross like if it’s just a casual picture that happens to have some cleavage or wearing a top that shows cleavage then I feel that’s not their part in if you can post that picture or not. A females body is her body and same with men and theirs but sometimes when in a relationship you do have to respect the other person in the relationship and they also have to respect you xxx I’m not saying that they should be controlling or anything I just sometimes when I post a picture and it’s extremely showy I do sometimes ask my boyfriend if he’s okay with me posting it as I do respect him too.. but otherwise I don’t think they should be controlling and they have their line they can’t cross xx

@bacon no person in a relationship has a right to what a person posts just because it makes the other “jealous”

‘Rights’ in a relationship is something the couple chooses, every relationship is different and accepts different rules etc, I don’t ALWAYS ask my boyfriend if a picture is okay as he’s not the boss of me. But sometimes when the picture is something lol just my boobs or something I do show him and say ‘are you fine with me posting this’ he always says yes but he will let me know if he’s uncomfortable about it. And I can understand why he would be uncomfortable and jealous and I say jealous as not him jealous of me but jealous and uncomfortable as when I do post these kinds of pictures I ALWAYS get comments such as “💦🤤👅💦💦💦” or something unpleasant, and even I get dms of photos and videos of men’s junk. So I understand why he would be uncomfortable as if it was the other way around I would 100% be too! Probably even worse 😂 so all I’m saying is sometimes there is a time when you gotta think about how your SO would feel about it as if you were in their shoes you wouldn’t want that either, He always lets me but it just makes him feel a little more comfterble that I let him know.. I’m not saying he’s controlling. And that he should be and chose all my pictures or anything just saying there’s times where I can understand how he would feel... But I don’t think it’s right for them to go force you not to. It’s your body ur choice.

But he’s never said no because he knows I’m just being confident and self loving in my body and he respects that and supports me just I can see why men sometimes get upset about it

@bacon Your bf feeling uncomfortable with something you can’t control, as it’s not your fault men find you attractive, is literally playing into rape culture. Your bf needs to grow up and realise that other men are going to find you attractive (no matter what you post/wear) and get over it - you also. It’s insecure to be bothered what each of you post whatever the ‘rights in the relationship’ are it’s unhealthy.

You shouldn’t have to ask anyone for permission to post a photo.

Yes I know, he’s grown and of fine with me posting anything I want no matter how showy it is just I like to let him know if it’s going to be something over the top that’s all and he knows men are going to find me attractive but doesn’t mean he should be happy about it, he’s fine with it and is comfterble because he trust me and I trust him and so on. He’s not controlling and tells me to block men who find me attractive and so on or anything he’s fine with it and knows it’s normal just I’m sure nobody would be happy with a female sending nudes to your boyfriend??

Ngl, if I had enough boobies to have cleavage I’d plug that all over the gram, low key jealous of everyone who can lol #ittybittytitty

@ems14 haha I’m with you on that one 😂😂

I understand that you women are strongly about you post what you want and I am too. I don’t ask him for permission I basically just let him know that my picture is going to be extremely showy (I don’t do this all the time with any picture that is cleavagey) just if the picture is like just my boobs or something uno?? I am all against men choosing what you post and no girl should be told what she can and can’t post all I’m saying is I can sss why they get upset about it and that’s what I do just to save an argument or tension or something uno but I 100% have full control over my Instagram and what I do is all my choice xx

@bacon I wouldn’t be happy a woman sending nudes as it’s a violation to him. I’m mature enough to know that other women will find my man attractive no matter what he’s posts/wears, but I’d only be in a relationship if I’m secure in it so other women aren’t an issue. You’re literally feeding into rape culture. Your partner should NEVER feel uncomfortable about something you post of your body, it’s unhealthy. I did see you guys are only 17 though tbf so I think your opinion will change as you mature and educate yourself on these issues x

@Bacon a penis is nowhere comparable to boobs...

Also, 1) your other girls sending nudes comparison makes no sense with the topic 2) stop calling other girls "females" 3) if he gets jealous of the responses you get then it's his problem, not yours, and there's nothing you can do to control what people say. Sure you can understand but asking for his permission will not stop people from commenting on your stuff. Saying that you need to be cautious because he is jealous of how people see you is not a legitimate excuse.

Receiving a nude is never your fault and no one should be jealous because you’re getting sexually harassed??

@xixv I’ve literally said I don’t ask for his permission I just let him know 😂 and I say female because that’s just the way I speak, you still know what I am referring to and saying how sending nudes makes no sense with the topic so does telling me not to say a word because you don’t like it 😂 it’s irrelevant lol, and nudes was making sense as men send me nudes all the time or videos of them jacking off to my picture and I’m saying I wouldn’t like it if a girl did that to him, and I fully understand it’s not mine or his fault and he knows that Honestly all relationships are different and just because you don’t like how I let him know I’m going to post a booby pic doesn’t mean hes being controlling xx

I’m just trying to make the relationship more open and communicating if you get me, And if anything it’s made my relationship healthier xx but we are all different I’m not saying you have to do that too, I’m just saying that’s what I do.. no hard feelings x

He does things like that for me too like if I’m not comfortable with a girl or soemthing he will remove (only sometimes when it’s acceptable and not just me being a jealous b*tch😂) and some people would say that’s wrong too and he can chose who he can have but like me he does it just to make the relationship better and to avoid any future arguments or tension.. like the same people might say I’m controlling uno... it’s just different relationships work differently and i was just saying what I do and how mine works. He’s not horrible or selfish at all x it was all my choice to do that he didn’t tell me to x

@bacon basically are asking his permission as if he said he was uncomfortable it’d put you off posting it. No matter how you explain it, it’s unhealthy, you may think it works for you guy now but it’s still bad. Even if you posted a photo stark naked with your legs open it’s not your fault if men message you and your bf shouldn’t feel insecure over that. My friend was in a relationship like yours and it was eventually what ruined it.

@Awg1 honestly social media hasn’t affected our relationship at all not even a little it’s just sometimes maybe it’s me I just feel more comfterble asking him because he always tells me I’m beautiful or something. I can see why you wouldn’t like it and it ruins relationships and honestly if he felt uncomfortable about it I would probably still post it but atleast he knew about it and not just keeping quiet about it but I only wouldn’t if He was actually upset about it I just care about him and respect him that’s all but yeah I see why it’s bad too but it’s not al the time it’s like verrrrrrryyyyy rare, just builds us a little trust that’s all

But yeah it’s all different and we’ve been together 4 years so so far so good x

@bacon I’m just saying factually (as I’ve educated myself a LOT on feminism and relationships) your relationship isn’t healthy if you both think like that, no matter how long you’ve been together or how much it’s worked for you.

@bacon I personally don’t think the length of relationship matters, I know of people who’ve been in unhealthy relationships for 10+ years, plus you’re very young and you’ve posted before that you’ve only been together a short amount of time😂

Girls find out everything you can’t lie here😂

Ahahaha the one from 2018 isn’t the relationship I’m in now, I dated this guy when I was about 13 for about 2 years but broke up that’s when I dated that guy during Valentine’s Day... hence the message. That didn’t work because I was still talking to this guy I was in a relationship with so we got back together and started fresh on 20/08/18..... so actually I haven’t lied 😂 and you didn’t actually find out everything 😂

Omg no 20/02/18 my bad 😂😂

Not 8

But like you said the amount of time doesn’t matter but why does my relationship bother you so much if you think it’s so unhealthy?? You don’t know me and my relationship..

LMAAOOO @awg1 said let me get receipts 😂😂😂 I’m dyyyying😭😭

Honestly just because you don’t like my relationship doesnt mean you should hate on me 😂 if my relationship doesn’t work out that’s my problem can we just leave it now??? I honestly don’t know why ur dragging this xx

Long story short he doesn’t control me I chose what I do and it’s been fine so far. If it goes down hill we will change it. I mostly show him and ask him mostly for myself because I don’t usually post exposing pictures

@luaptsae i know, was even quick enough to get them before she deleted all the posts😂😂 why say 4 years on one post and 1.5 on another..😂

It doesn’t bother me what bothers me is that you’re giving advice to a girl here that is promoting rape culture and insecurity in relationships. You keep coming back trying to explain so I am trying to educate you, if you don’t want to listen then don’t but it would improve your relationship if you did. So you do you, just don’t give advice if you haven’t educated yourself x

@bacon gf if he says he’s uncomfortable about a pic you post, that’s controlling. No one dislikes your relationship or is hating on you. We are just trying to make sure that the person who posted this can receive the most healthy relationship advice and constructive responses, both of which you did not provide.

@Awg1 omg I’ve already said loads of times I understand what ur saying and If it goes bad I’d change it but I feel ur attacking me abit tbh and I wasn’t giving advice the literal first thing I said was “yeah I don’t think it’s right for men to be controlling” and then went on to say that my problem was I get carried away with what I post when I post showy pics... I was talking about me as in I needed the advice too 😩 but I was also saying that I can see why they would be upset about it BUT it’s not okay for them to force you/control you... I’ve LITTERALLY BEEN AGREEINF WITH You THE WHOLE TIME 😩😂 But I feel like ur having a go at me just because I told you my flaw and what’s happens in mine rather than JUST giving me advice.. uno?? I’m not against you or anyone saying it’s wrong I AGREE I was just saying what happens in mine and yeah It might be unhealthy but it hasn’t been a problem so far.. there have been times where I know he is uncomfortable about it but he still tells me it’s fine and even thought I know he’s not I still post it. Even if he said no I probably still would I honestly just ask him to make myself abit more confident.. after I ask him I say “it’s not too slutty is it?” And he tells me no it’s fine or it’s beautiful etc.. I don’t ask him to control me I ask him for his opinions xx Like I said I’m not disagreeing with you but I said about the hating because I feel abit attacked right now when I’ve been nice and can’t I have a voice? I am starting to feel abit shut down and I’m not giving advice if anything I’m joining on NEEDING the advice that’s why I talked about my relationship and that I get carried away and how I can see why he’s upset but I do it anyways

Honestly isn’t threads suppose to be where you can be open and talk without being judged? I’m not really getting that vibe.. I hardly use this app but only just started again and im I thought it was where you can be honest about everything ?... I’m starting to feel really insecure

@Awg1 I said 1.5 because we had issues in our last relationship and he wanted to meet new people as we started dating young and he didn’t want to miss out especially as he moved away from me and we used to argue a lot in long distance now we are living closer and we needed that break and we said to start fresh, I say 1.5 because that’s how long we’ve been together since then.. but when talking about our relationship we have basically been together 4 years (getting on 4 years) just we had a break in the middle.. I really don’t like all this negativity and judge ness... this is kinda cyber bullying and I wouldn’t expect that on this kind of app..

@bacon girl no you haven’t😂 You’re saying your getting what I’ve put but then you go and contradict that by saying “I understand why they’d be upset”. Them being upset at all is NOT okay. No one is attacking you or cyber bullying, just trying to educate you and explain, this is a forum it’s what we’re here to do. Lol and pick a length of time then😂 I cba though anymore, you’re young I think you’re opinion will change anyway with time x

Idk maybe it’s just me like when something bothers me I can’t just click and be fine, and my length of time in my relationship doesn’t matter in this so pls leave it out but yeah honestly I’m not that serious about this and I’m not against anything you say I agree with what ur saying just kinda sucks you don’t see where I’m coming from but yeah x thanks anyways x