So me and my boyfriend always fall asleep on FaceTime at night, so we are on FaceTime and he says he wants me to flash him or whatever and I said I’m tired, he said “fine then I’m going to watch porn” and he left. I have no problem with him watching porn, I just felt sad that he told me that and just hung up without any other say not even a goodnight. Maybe I’m too sensitive lol I don’t know

I would be upset that he left that fast after you said no to a sexual favour, like that’s the only thing he wants from you. You’re a human, not an object for his sexual pleasure

Tbh while it was a bit rude to just end the call abruptly like that, unless that’s something he has done before I wouldn’t assume or jump to the conclusion that he’s just wanting sexual favours/using you as an object for his sexual pleasure...

That is a red flag. It is very manipulative behavior, since it is in fact making you feel bad for not wanting to show your body. Hanging up abruptly clearly showed he was upset or mad, and that is a huuuge red flag.

That’s such a sh*tty and immature thing to do. If he wants to watch porn, that’s completely fine, but hanging up mid phone call in such an audacious way doesn’t sit right with me. You have every right to be upset.

I’d be annoyed too. Perfectly fine that you said no and perfectly fine that he wants to watch porn but there’s no need to act like that

You’re not being too sensitive that was a dickish thing to do, being a little snappy just because you didn’t want to do anything. It’s fine to be horny and want to watch porn but he shouldn’t say it in a way that makes it seem you’ve done something wrong x

A very similar thing happened to me the other day, it’s fine to be upset

i would be hurt too.

@Shsjivuhs that’s a red flag for him too!!

@nEne16 In fairness the situation was slightly different, he wasn’t actually annoyed at me for not being in the mood and we talked about it afterwards. We’re all good xx

If he was using a rude tone with you, then that was absolutely not okay. It’s not okay to try to guilt you for not bejng in the mood/for choosing to not flash him. If he just left because he actually just wanted to watch porn, and wasn’t rude to you, then there is no issue

I would be irritated. Especially considering he decided to just hang up.

I think he was throwing an immature fit...just because you wouldn’t show him your boobies, he got all offended like his hand was smacked and tried to use —watching porn—as a way to get back at you. Not cool. In my opinion. If he didn’t have an attitude about it, he would have left you and him in a better place. With a goodbye, and talk later.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with watching porn, the problem is that he used that to make you feel bad about not flashing him. That’s manipulative in my opinion. If my bf is busy and or is not in the mood, I go in the room and entertain myself while watching some porn. I don’t *tell* him, because I don’t wanna make him feel bad about not wanting sex right now. Also, he hung up right after, that is so disrespectful and immature in my opinion. When he realized you were tired, he should have told you good night and he could have taken care of himself after.